Long-term relationships require tons of hard work.
They demand understanding, empathy, patience, loyalty, and lots of love. If you want your relationship to last strong and healthy, you should be willing to make every effort needed.
When you are with the right person, you will know. Being in a serious relationship will teach you how to make compromises, how to remain silent when things get heated up, and how to love even when it seems impossible. To achieve all that, you need to accept that love is not always carefree.
Below are listed some of the harsh truths you need to accept if you truly want your relationship to last.
1. Love falls apart.
People fall in and out of love all the time. Like it or not, love can fall apart just like everything else in life. You can never expect it to magically last forever without making any effort. If you’re not willing to give your heart and soul into your relationship, sooner or later, it will inevitably collapse.
2. Even if someone truly loves you, they still might hurt you.
Oftentimes, we believe that the person who loves us the most will never do anything to hurt us. And they are convinced they wouldn’t harm us too. However, in many relationships, this is exactly what happens. We hurt and get hurt by the people we love the most.
We are used to believe that love is almighty and conquers every challenge life holds. Well, sometimes love just isn’t enough to make things work. If you are not ready to make any attempt to save your relationship, and you only rely on love, chances are, you’re going to fail. What’s more, not everyone is meant to stay in our lives forever. That’s another harsh truth you need to accept.
4. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship.
Perfect relationships are a myth. Each and every one of us has some issues and imperfections. Besides, life is full of ups and downs. We cannot expect this to not reflect on our relationships. There are going to be lots of fights and arguments. And if you go through it all together, as a couple, you will have something much more valuable than perfection in your life.
5. Love is unpredictable.
The idea of love you have, formed by romantic comedies and fairytales, is too far away from reality. Love is not always what you believe it should be. The true meaning of this enchanting feeling hides within you. When you truly experience it, you will realize love is so much more than you can imagine.
6. Mistakes are inevitable.
As we already mentioned, perfect relationships exist only in movies. Both you and your partner are going to make many mistakes until you learn how to properly treat each other, and what makes you truly happy. That’s why it’s extremely important for you two to be able to forgive one another and learn from your mistakes.
7. Love doesn’t always bring happiness.
Unfortunately, a lot of times love becomes too challenging and unbearable. Being in love can make you experience emotional pain you’ve never felt before. That’s why you need to be willing to make the effort to go through this pain together. This way, you’re going to strengthen your relationship and achieve a deeper connection with one another.
8. You’re going to need a lot of patience.
It’s all fun and games at the beginning. You’re in love, you spend all of your time together, and you can’t get enough of each other. Until one day, when all these little flaws you loved about each other start frustrating you. The magic of being freshly in love eventually fades away. When this happens, you need to be patient and understanding, because letting every little thing upset you is just not healthy for your relationship.
9. You need to spend time apart.
Both you and your partner need some alone time every now and then. This doesn’t mean you’re sick of each other. It simply means that you need to take time to take care of your own wellbeing. Being in a couple is wonderful, but you are still a whole valuable person that can function on their own.
10. Being loyal doesn’t mean letting your partner walk all over you.
Loyalty is about staying true to each other. But it’s also about respecting yourself enough not to let the other treat you badly. You should never let anyone take advantage of your loyalty and your trust. Make sure you have enough self-esteem not to let anyone walk over you.