The 6 Most Positive Benefits of Self-Confidence Showing Why It Is Such an Important Quality

The story of the bird that perched on a branch.

A tired bird perched on a branch. The bird relaxed, enjoying the view from the branch and the security that is provided from the beasts in the wood. The more the bird became used to the branch and its comfort, the stronger the wind was blowing, and the tree bent with such force that it looked as if the branch would snap in half.

But the bird was not worried as it understood two big truths.

The first one was that it could fly and does not need the branch. The power of its own two wings provided the bird’s true safety, not the branch. The second truth was that there are a lot of other branches upon which it could perch.

This short story says a lot about our self-confidence and spirit.

We are able of much more than we think or display in an everyday situation. And when we have to release what holds us to the ground, we become able to understand exactly how high we can fly supported by our power.

In the woods of life, there are many branches and trees which could assure us peace and safety.

And it’s undoubtedly true that sometimes we need exactly these things. But as in the story told above the sources of safety are sometimes only temporary. What is lasting and permanent is what rests within us, in the form of positive self-esteem and belief in ourselves.

So, one of the critical factors for a successful and happy life is our self-confidence. A quality that it is incredibly precious for so many reasons.

Here are six of the most positive benefits which make self-confidence that important:

1. Confidence allows you to live your life for yourself.

Your self-confidence defines the way others see you. You can’t expect other people to believe in you unconditionally if you show them you don’t believe in yourself wholeheartedly. If you aren’t confident in the person who you are, you won’t be able to achieve your own goals and live your life the way you want. You’ll be nervous and self-conscious instead. That is why you should do things that make you happy and that interest you no matter what others think. With your self-confidence by your side, you would be able to live the life the way you want and understand it.

2. Self-confidence is attractive.

According to folk wisdom self-confidence is exceptionally appealing to possible partners. This idea is confirmed by research on the preferences of men and women regarding the different levels of involvement in the different types of relationships. According to this research, confidence is at the top of the list of qualities men and women consider very attractive in a partner (Buunk, Dijkstra, Fetchenhauer, & Kenrick, 2002).

There have been many other studies done on what attracts us to each other, and while no clear opinions are supporting only one or another specific thing, it’s undoubtedly true that we would go to what we feel attracted to. And people with magnetic energy are the most attractive ones. We’re not speaking of beauty, only. Self-confidence is as vital because it shows one’s full-on acceptance of their personality on all levels and encourages us all to do the same thing.

3. It is a quality of leaders.

No one would follow someone who does not truly believe in him or herself because it ruins the entire idea of having a leader. There is no chance for believing in someone’s ability to lead you if their motives are not well validated. Leaders must have confidence in themselves. And in what they are doing. So that the people who trust them and feel secure, determined and certain to be going in the right direction.

4. Self-confidence shows to the world that you love yourself.

The sad truth is that people who lack self-confidence – depend too much on others to make them feel significant and proud of themselves. And nobody needs anyone else’s approval to feel complete and happy about themselves.

Here is how the author of the book “The Motivated Mind” explains this:

“Self-confidence is more of an attitude – where you promise yourself – no matter how difficult of problem life throws at you-you will try as hard as you can to help yourself. You will acknowledge that sometimes, your efforts to help yourself – may not result in success, because often, being properly rewarded, is not in your control.”

5. Self-confidence and positivism go hand in hand.

Negativity is dangerous not only for our well-being. It could also be putting off for other people. Who wants to be around a person blaming others for their own mistakes. No one, that’s sure. And confident people are usually optimists. They tend to think positively because they are sure about themselves and aren’t quickly thrown off track. They accept life and things that happen to them as they are and react accordingly. Confident people do not allow any hindrances to worry them. They believe in what they are doing and are sure of their success.

6. Self-confidence indicates maturity.

When we stop being that interested in other people’s opinion, we are free to enjoy our own life the way we want to. Here is what one of the most famous educators of all time says about it:

The chief symptom of adolescence is a state of expectation, a tendency towards creative work, and a need for the strengthening of self-confidence. Suddenly, the child becomes very sensitive to the rudeness and humiliations which he had previously suffered from passive indifference.

The benefits of self-confidence stated above seem to be among the most important ones but are certainly only a minor part of an endless list.

So, try staying confident and live your life the way you want, not the way others think you should. And as Lao Tzu said more than thousand years ago:

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. For one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”