9 Habits That Are More Harmful to Your Relationship Than Cheating
Without even realizing it, you could be poisoning your relationship.
There are several things which have the power to erode the happiness and love in your relationship. What is more, these things are little habits which you and/or your partner might not even realize you have.
While initially, they may not seem that important, a closer look at what they can result in proves that these nine little habits have the power to dissolve even the happiest relationship.
1. Not saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’.
Of course, it is normal and natural to forget saying this from time to time. However, if this becomes a habit, you could risk losing your partner. By saying please and thank you, you show them that you not only appreciate what they do for you but that you respect their time and efforts. Ultimately, you let them know that you do not take them – or what they do for you – for granted.
2. Becoming too comfortable.
It is a blessing to find someone who will love you regardless of your flaws and imperfections. Everyone should feel comfortable and as though they can be themselves without fearing judgment. Nevertheless, if this comfort goes too far, it could become an issue. In the same way that everyone deserves to be comfortable, everyone deserves to feel appreciated. By becoming lazy and not putting effort into the relationship, you can make your partner feel as though they are being taken for granted. In addition to this, you can make them think that you expect to be loved no matter what. Keeping the spark alive is important if you want your relationship to last.
3. Lacking trust.
After love, trust is the most important element. If you do not trust your partner (or vice versa), your relationship will rapidly fall apart. You could risk making your partner feel controlled or suffocated if your lack of trust goes too far. In addition to this, you too will feel unhappy as a lack of trust means that you could be in a constant state of insecurity and paranoia.
4. Always being on your phone.
If you are texting, scrolling, or reading emails when you are with your partner, you could ruin your relationship. Doing this leaves your partner feeling as though they are not your priority and that they bore you. At the end of the day, nobody wants to be in a relationship where they feel unappreciated and taken for granted. Sooner or later, your partner will find someone who shows a genuine interest in what they have to say.
5. Not being affectionate.
While everyone needs different levels of affection, everyone needs to feel loved. Withholding affection or being annoyed when your partner is affectionate is extremely harmful to your relationship. Being affectionate with your partner makes them feel loved and also shows them that you crave their love.
6. Acting arrogant and superior.
When two partners argue, they should work on resolving issues instead of trying to prove each other wrong. Treating your partner in a condescending and patronizing way, makes them feel disrespected and unappreciated. In addition to this, it shows them that you view yourself as being better and smarter than them; in other words, they begin to realize that you do not see their real worth and value. As a result, they are likely to break things off in order to find someone who appreciates them.
Without proper communication, your relationship cannot work. You need to be open and honest about your feelings and thoughts. Similarly, you should make your partner feel as though they can voice their concerns whenever they feel like something in the relationship needs to be fixed. It is only through proper communication that you can identify issues and resolve them.
8. Lying about small things.
Lying about small, meaningless things could erode trust. Unsurprisingly, you will leave your partner wondering what else you are lying about if you lie about the smallest of things. This leads to a lack of trust and before you know it, your relationship can be beyond repair.
9. Waiting to discuss what angers you.
When your partner angers or irritates you, make sure that you point it out immediately. If you bottle things up, you will only encourage the anger and soon, resentment and bitterness will begin to grow. This means that one day, you will inevitably let all of these feelings out in the open. When you do, it will be much worse than it would have been had you mentioned it earlier on.
Sometimes, it is the little things that can make a happy relationship turn into a nightmare.
Make sure that you pay attention to the habits that you have and how they can affect your partner.