Do you often find yourself stuck in toxic relationships?
Finding yourself falling for the same type of person over and over again may mean that you attract negative energy. If all of your relationships thus far have been toxic, abusive, or unhealthy, you need to be more cautious with who you let into your life. Of course, this is easier said than done. Nevertheless, there are several things you can do to ensure that you protect yourself and your happiness.
There are 10 ways you can avoid getting into toxic relationships.
1. Get comfortable being alone.
When people do not know how to be happy on their own, they settle for anyone who will make them feel less lonely. If you learn how to enjoy your own company, you will not tie yourself to someone just because you are afraid of being single.
2. Know your deal breakers and boundaries.
Make a list of the things you will not tolerate in a relationship. Moreover, familiarize yourself with your boundaries. Ask yourself, “What are my emotional and physical boundaries?” When you know what you want and need, you will be able to pick a partner who respects you and your boundaries.
3. Do not settle.
In every relationship, someone needs to make a compromise. However, making too many compromises and sacrificing things that are important to you will make you unhappy. Eventually, you will begin to resent your partner and inevitably, your relationship will fail.
4. Find someone with whom you can be vulnerable.
To be in a happy relationship you need to be with a partner who is caring and supportive. You will never find happiness with someone who dismisses your emotions and does not allow you to express your concerns, thoughts, and desires.
5. Seek mutual respect.
Without mutual respect, a relationship cannot survive. Your partner needs to respect your time, your values, and your boundaries in the same way that you respect theirs. Furthermore, you must show one another acceptance, support, and admiration.
6. Prioritize trust.
Before you find yourself in a relationship with someone, ask yourself if you can trust them. If you are not 100% certain that you can, walk away. A lack of trust will break your relationship. You deserve to be with someone you know is trustworthy, reliable, and honest.
7. Value actions over words.
Anyone can make an empty promise. They can say “I love you”, “I’m sorry”, and “I promise I will change”. These words are meaningless if they are not accompanied by actions that prove them. Be with someone who will show you that they love you or that they are sorry. Words are not enough.
8. Be with a partner who includes you in their inner circle.
When someone does not want to introduce you to their friends and family, you need to be careful. Keeping you away from their inner circle and their private life is a red flag. More specifically, it means that they are not serious about you.
9. Look for more than just physical attraction.
Of course, chemistry and physical attraction are important. However, they are not everything. To be in a truly happy and thriving relationship, you need someone with who you are compatible. Can you talk to them for hours without being bored? Can they make you laugh? These are important things to consider before diving into a relationship.
10. Be with someone who wants you in their future.
Do not waste your time on people who avoid labels and claim that they are afraid of commitment. If someone wants you, they will prove it. They will talk about the future and make it clear that they plan on being with you.
You deserve someone who makes you feel safe, secure, and happy. Do not settle for anything less.
