Being a woman has never been easy, but being a strong one is a real challenge. C.JoyBell C. gives a brilliant definition of a strong woman:
“I believe in strong women. In the woman who can stand up for herself. I believe in the woman who doesn’t need to hide behind her husband’s back. And that if you have problems, as a woman you deal with them, you don’t play the victim, you don’t make yourself look pitiful; don’t point fingers. You stand, and you deal. You face the world with a head held high, and you carry the universe in your heart.”
Strong women possess a particular type of vibe because they demonstrate confidence and assertiveness whatever they do.
These women know how to make others respect them because they know their worth. They could not settle for anything less than what they deserve in their professional and personal life. And most importantly they couldn’t accept being treated poorly or falling victim to their partner’s toxicity.
Here are seven types of toxic behavior a strong woman could never accept in a relationship according to experts:
Physical abuse comes with bruises you can see, but emotional abuse is marked with manipulative comments and controlling behavior that leads to self-doubt. The victim of the abuse often doesn’t see the mistreatment as abusive. They develop coping mechanisms of denial and minimizing to deal with the stress. Nonetheless, a strong woman is one who wouldn’t accept emotional abuse. She would know when her partner or others are not treating her right and she would do something to stop it. She would stay away from a partner who threatens her self-esteem and well-being because she knows her worth.
2. Being restricted
Strong women usually share one common characteristic – they all have a free spirit. Hence, they always seek opportunities to learn, grow, and progress (in their personal and professional life). So, a woman with a strong personality couldn’t accept someone trying to hold her back or a partner is not supportive of her and her goals. Strengths Strategy Coach Bob Roesler confirms this:
“In my experience, fabulous women never tolerate feeling restricted. They have no time for those unwilling to make the commitment necessary to achieve success. Strong, independent women need to be able to spread their wings and fly, not be restricted by limited choices.”
3. Being disrespected
Strong, confident women respect themselves and expect the others to treat them with respect too. That’s why they know how to set healthy boundaries with others. They are very well aware that it’s necessary to set our limits so that people could honor our vulnerability, respect our needs, and that this is also crucial to have time for a physical or emotional self-care. Below is the opinion of the clinical and Health Psychologist Amanda Gordon who supports this idea:
“It’s strong to know your bottom line and be prepared to stand by it, but it also takes strength to be touched emotionally, to grieve a loss, to comfort a friend. Grieving can take time. Once it’s done, though, a strong, independent woman rolls up her sleeves and moves on.”
4. Living a life full of drama
People who gossip, complain or pretend to be a victim, are not a part of a strong woman’s circle of friends. Life Coach Kelly Rudolph says that:
“They steer clear of negative people who blame, complain, and refuse to improve themselves. Strong, independent women know personal growth is a powerful way to achieve self-confidence, self-respect, self-love, and a healthy self-image. And that is how they achieve their dreams!”
Therefore, confident, successful women need to be surrounded with people who think positively, take responsibility for their lives, and who choose to look at the bright side of things.
5. Being overwhelmed by fear
Although strong women are not fearless a strong, independent lady is someone who certainly would not let fear stop her from achieving her aims, no matter what! And most importantly a strong woman doesn’t look negatively at failure. Leadership Coach Dr. Pam Denton thinks that:
“Strong women don’t indulge their fear of failure and don’t see it as a reason to quit pursuing ambitions or give up on goals. Although failure to many women can feel embarrassing (like a reason to criticize performance or a fall from grace), on the other side, strong and independent women perceive failure as an opportunity to reach goals, process emotions, gather valuable lessons and build relationships. They won’t allow failure to halt progress.”
All strong women know that everyone including them has weaknesses and negative traits, but they accept these things as an inevitable part of life. However, a strong woman always seeks ways to improve herself and tries to make sure she’s speaking her truth, noticing unhealthy patterns, and holding people in her life (including herself) to account. They wouldn’t tolerate negativity and wouldn’t allow themselves to be a source of negativity. According to The Relationship Help Doctor Rhoberta Shaler, Ph.D.:
“When you are simply tolerating things, you build resentment that you may not even be aware of. Resentments are energy leaks. Look at your relationships in particular with clear, rational eyes. Many high-powered women are being undermined by their relationships, all the while justifying and rationalizing toxic behaviors.”
7. Being undermined
Strong women know their worth and the worth of their opinion. Of course, they could happily listen to other people’s ideas, give credit when they think they should, and wouldn’t try to outshine others to boost their ego. However, a strong woman’s grace should not be mistaken for weakness. She knows who she is and what she could give and she wouldn’t tolerate being undermined. Self Love Mystic & Mentor Pernilla Lillaros states that:
“A strong, independent woman does not tolerate being undermined, dishonored or questioned for who she is. She knows her values and priorities and has lost all interest in and need to argue, defend or justify herself in the face of other’s opinions.”
So, if you are a lady who is not able to stand these or most of these kinds of behavior, you could proudly name yourself a strong woman.
A lady who enjoys being independent and acts confidently, the perfect combination between beauty and the strength of femininity.
Do you think you are a strong woman?
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