“And now here is my secret, a very simple secret: It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.” The Little Prince by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry.
Relationships, especially romantic ones, could bring a lot of happiness and beautiful moments but at the same time could cause terrible pain and break our heart .
The reason for this contradiction is that in the beginning, most people look at their partner through rose-colored glasses. That’s why they can’t make accurate judgments about that person’s character and the potential of the partnership in the long term. So, it’s a little surprise that as time goes by people start to see their significant other’s flaws and things don’t look as perfect as they did in the first months. That’s when serious problems begin.
So, is there a way to avoid disappointment when it comes to love? Can we understand right from the beginning that someone is for us? And can we ever be sure that if our partner tells us they love us, they mean it?
According to experts words are not a reliable source of reassurance about other people’s feelings. But, actions are. That’s why with the help of experts below we’ve outlined 8 things someone who loves you to the moon and back would do for you unknowingly:
1. They know your true colors and accept you for who you are
Your partner knows that you have flaws, but they love you anyway. They accept you for who you are and would never try to change you. Here is the opinion of the couple counselor Anne Marie Foscolo who also thinks this way:
“When it comes to romantic partners, you should look for someone who is OK if you have a bad day and are not in the mood for a talk or don’t want to have sex. Someone who feels happy just to lie next to you in bed and watch you sleep.”
2. They unknowingly remember things about you
A person who truly loves you can’t forget that you don’t like mint tea or that you are allergic to almonds for example. Someone who’s deeply in love might remember a lot of details about you from your daily conversations or conversations with others. Here is what Bethany Ricciardi, sex educator and relationship expert with Too Timid “The Romance Company” says to Bustle:
“They may not even realize they’re doing it,” she says. “They just care so much they can’t help but remember the little things when it comes to you.”
3. They always keep in touch
If your partner communicates with you as often as possible this proves they feel deeply connected with you and are constantly thinking of you:
“Believe it or not, something as simple as a ‘good morning’ text can show someone has deep feelings for you,” Dresean Ryan, a relationship expert with KiwiSearches, explains to Bustle.
We usually tell our close people how we feel or what we are going through. But what could truly reveal if someone loves you is whether or not they are empathetic toward you and treat you with compassion and understanding.
“If you spend enough time with someone you’ll find yourself caring deeply and your mood can very easily be affected by theirs “, Riccardi says.
5. Their company makes you happy
Another thing revealing if you and your partner love each other is how you feel when you are together. That is one of the most important reassurances that you love each other and are a good match according to Anne Marie Foscolo:
“If both of you are impatient to get home and see each other because this makes you happy and relieves the stress after a bad day, then you are with the right partner.”
6. You can efortlessly look at each other for a long time
Body language is also important and could reveal how we get along with our partner says body language expert Traci Brown:
“You’ll be OK looking each other in the eye at close range — just a few inches,” she says to Elite Daily. “That’s really uncomfortable to do with people you’re not intimate with.”
So, it turns out that if you and your partner can stare at each other’s eyes for a few minutes without talking, or blinking, you are actually very close.
7. They see you in their future
Another important sign is if your partner includes you in their future plans. Here is what Riccardi says about the importance of having (long-term) future plans with your partner:
“Creating a future with someone, or, dreaming about one, says ‘I love you,” she says to Bustle.
8. They know it’s not going to be easy
If your significant other loves you sincerely, they won’t feel afraid when difficulties come your way because they know that love is not always a bed of roses. A partner who has the potential to be with you for better or for worse will most probably see challenges as opportunities which strengthen your relationship and make you even closer than before.
The truth is that it’s impossible to read our partner’s mind or be sure that they love us deeply, even if they say they do. That’s why it’s wise to pay close attention to their behavior. If you notice that he or she does most of or all of the things listed above, there’s a high chance this person loves you truly and is the right one for you.
Are you happy with your partner?
Please, tell us in the comments.