5 Paradoxes Of Being An INFJ (The Rarest Personality Type)
INFJs (Introverted Intuitive Feeling Judging, or in simpler terms Introverted Intuition with Extraverted Feeling) are people with the rarest personality type.
The elements of their personality can often seem contradictory, thus they can sometimes feel like two different people in the same body.
In what follows we’ll explore some of the most interesting paradoxes of the INFJ personality type:
1. They are both outgoing and reserved
Most of the time, they want to be around people. They want to make new friends and connect with them, hanging out all day, every day. However, this line of thought lasts five minutes before they want to hide from the world for half a week while they rest and catch up on reading. They want to be hermits, living alone without ever having to speak to other people. INFJs tend to be both introverted and extroverted. They like isolation but at the same time, they want to spend time with those they can have intense discussions with. This is why INFJs can be quite reserved but outgoing at the same time. They love hanging out with people, analyzing them, and figuring out what makes them tick. But if they spend too much time around them, they feel drained and withdraw into solitude.
2. They are creative and rational
The merging of introversion, sensitivity, and empathy in INFJs creates a person who can absorb a lot of information from the world and people around them. Therefore they need a way to release and express all the energy they have absorbed in a creative and meaningful way.
But, more than just dreamers, INFJs are also practical, organized, logic-minded people who enjoy analyzing and studying complex ideas.
They might like to paint, write, or create music, but also have a passion for science and innovation.
They might feel torn between what appear to be opposite interests – but they don’t have to be. And that’s the beauty of it. They can both be creative and rational, artistic and logical, painters and scientists.
3. They have a lot of feelings but are also stable
It can be both a blessing and a curse to feel the way INFJs do. They are gifted with empathetic abilities and feel exactly what other people around them do. They feel emotions very intensely, but at the same time, they can look cool and collected to others. No one would get even the slightest hint of what is going on in their minds, but this isn’ always good for them because they tend to bottle up things without letting them go. But then there are instances where they can succumb to powerful feelings when others around them think they are hypersensitive. It’s hard to know what an INFJ is thinking because their feelings run so deep.
4. They are both good and bad at communication
NFJ’s can be disorderly when it comes to their thoughts, which is why sometimes they don’t seem to make a lot of sense. The INFJ brain is like a PC that can not function at full power because there are just too many tasks running at the same time. They can be excellent public speakers but only if they’ve had time to go over what they want to say. They need some time to put their ideas in order, and if they can get that space, they can easily draw the crowd’s attention, and even do a great job in a debate.
INFJs may be reserved but they are also confident.
5. They are both dreamers and doers
INFJs are dreamers. But despite the air-headed names INFJs get called (“head in the clouds, etc.”), they have a great record of success because they possess the ability to turn their dreams into actions.
The judging element of their personality gives them great organizational skills, allowing them to create step-by-step plans to accomplish their goals. INFJs acknowledge the importance of deeds over words and apply the same expectation to themselves.
Even though many INFJs might feel misunderstood because of their paradoxes, they can be grateful for them.
They are big parts of their personality and create balance within their lives. They get to see, feel, experience, and breathe the best of both worlds, and this makes them even more capable of understanding and loving others.
Are you an INFJ? Please Share your unique experiences with us in the comment section.