Are they too busy or do they not care enough?
Many of us know someone who is never there when we need them. They make excuses and explain that they do not have time and that they are simply just “too busy”. When we get used to hearing this, we begin to make excuses for them too as we start to think, “I am sure they would have called to check up on me if they were not so busy”. Unfortunately, the more we do this, the more we hurt ourselves as nobody is ever “too busy” to make time for the things and people that are important to them. When you care about someone, you make the time to show it.
We get to choose what we put our energy into.
How we spend our time is our choice. If someone does not text you back for a week, they simply do not want to. Nobody is so busy that they do not have the time to send a simple response. If you think about your own life, you will find that you have always made time for the people that you hold dear. No matter what your schedule may look like, you know that you prioritize your family and friends. The same is true for everybody else as we all attempt to find the perfect balance.
Instead of saying “I don’t have time” try saying “it’s not a priority,” and see how that feels. Often, that’s a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don’t want to. But other things are harder. Try it: “I’m not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it’s not a priority.” “I don’t go to the doctor because my health is not a priority.” If these phrases don’t sit well, that’s the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don’t like how we’re spending an hour, we can choose differently.
― Wall Street Journal
If someone does not make time for you, they just do not see you as a priority. Instead of waiting around for them, surround yourself with people who would move mountains for you. You deserve the love and care that you give.
