Being with someone who does not deserve you is difficult.
You will hear people tell you that you deserve better and that you should leave. Some will even talk behind your back as they will not be able to understand why you stay in a relationship with someone like that. What is worse, when you break up, you will begin to believe everything you’ve ever heard as you convince yourself that maybe you are weak: ‘If I were stronger, I would have left before they made me feel this way. Do I have no self-respect? No dignity? Not even a little bit of strength?’
The truth is you’re not weak, you are strong.
Being able to love deeply and sincerely is something which nowadays, few people can do. For this reason, you should give yourself credit for the love which you are capable of giving even when it is not reciprocated. Loving selflessly and unconditionally requires strength and courage. Your ability to forgive a person who has hurt you over and over again does not symbolize weakness or naivety but rather strength, purity, and kindness. You need to give yourself the credit you deserve because even though you have not been loved the way you should have, you have loved in ways that everyone ought to.
Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.
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Do not let your previous relationship change you.
You did not suffer because you were weak or naive. The relationship did not work because you were not right for one another. Being mistreated is never as a result of weakness and it is never the fault of the one being mistreated. Do not let the one who treated you wrong stop you from being loving and forgiving. It requires strength and courage to be the person that you are.
