It’s Time To Take Off Those Rose Tinted Glasses And Realize That If They Really Cared, They Would Act Like It.
There comes a time when we have to take off the rose tinted glasses and look at the situation in full colour, without a love tint filter.
Its hard at first but at some point we have to realize that chasing after people who say they care can be more damaging than letting them go and moving on with our lives, after all, actions speak louder than words. The thing is, we allow these people to sugar coat their unavailability by using sweet words filled with nothingness while we wait for them to honour their empty promises.
If they truly cared they would show it! They would never make you question where you stand with them because they would never want you to feel uncertain.
It’s time to realize that connections, no matter how strong can be one-sided. Coming to terms with this truth can be painful because with knowing this one begins to know the pain of letting go. You see, fooling yourself into believing that they care will literally lead you to a dead end.
These people are master manipulators. If and when you confront them for not honouring their word or for slacking on the attention side of things they will blast you with justifications and reasons as to why they can’t or haven’t been able to show you love or give you attention.
The truth is, they probably do love and care for you are too damn lazy to show it.
This is where I will share one of my favourite quotes with you, “Love is not what you say but rather, what you do”.
When you truly understand the depth of those words you begin to only tolerate love in action. Life is too short to be chasing the love and affection of people who aren’t ready to reciprocate the love and attention you give them.
We spend so many days, hours and minutes trying to convince ourselves that they care and are just ‘going through something’ or ‘dealing with stress’ that we completely overlook the truth. The truth is they think their little bit of effort is enough when in fact it isn’t. One should never, I repeat, never settle for receiving less than what you have put in. The world isn’t fair, but that’s because we make it so.
So now comes the hard part; realizing that they don’t put as much effort into the relationship as you do and what to do about that. Either you can spend the rest of your days chasing, validating and or excusing their half-arsed efforts or you can swiftly move on with your life, investing time and energy into people who not only say they love and care for you but actually show you that they do.
Trust me, if you decide to leave, it’s going to hurt, loosing someone you love always does but that hurt will not last a life time. No it will only make you stronger and more aware of what is good for you and what isn’t.
I would rather feel, and eventually get over the pain of loss than feel the pain of loneliness every day while staying in a relationship I constantly felt uncertain of. It’s not healthy having to always chase and be left with disappointment.
Eventually, the need to do what is best for you will become crystal clear and you will start to feel a pull towards the direction of self-care and self-love.
However, this pull will lead you away from the person you love dearly because if they truly loved and cared for you, you would never be put in
Know that when you do remove yourself from a dead-end relationship, doors will open up for you and you will begin to meet people who truly care and do what they day.
People who honour their word and who find no reasons not to meet you half way.