5 Defining Qualities Of A Good Man
In a society drowning in articles, dating advice magazines, social media updates, and barely enough time to slow down and reset – we are left with an overflow of information about “what to do”, but hardly enough advice on who to be.
Especially for men, most of the “advice” available out there is how to talk to women, how to treat them or how to start a conversation. However, regardless of what you say or do, the thing that matters the most is who you are.
So, if we want to turn into men who women naturally want to be around without persuasion, how do we approach it?
Here are 5 qualities that make a good man:
1. He is a gentleman
A great man needs to be polite, considerate, respectful and attentive to a woman’s needs. This also including classic gentlemanly behavior such as holding the door, pulling a woman’s chair, taking her coat, walking on the car side of the street, and more. It’s not an overstatement to say that if all men were gentlemen, we would live in a much better world. Sadly, today things are not like that, making guys that have that quality stand out from the rest. In addition, great men never cross the line of being inappropriate.
2. He pays attention
Many men carry a misconception that listening is a passive action and requires no effort (You just sit there while the other person talks), and thus fail to see its true importance.
What women naturally understand, is that listening is more active than we realize. It requires effort to truly absorb what is being said, store it in mind, and then discuss it later. Developing your ability to actively listen will make you more desirable to be around whether we are speaking of personal or professional relationships.
3. He is mature
True maturity means that a man is able to care for himself and he approaches life’s issues in a calm and collected manner. He understands the importance of being an independent man and values what he has. A mature man does not have to be rich but needs to know how to handle his assets. While it is true that men mature later in life, we all know at least one “childish” guy that, even though he is past his 30’s still acts like and lives the life of a schoolboy. A mature man knows when the time has come to grow up and be an adult.
Ideally, a desirable man should live by himself but some might stay with a roommate. He should under no circumstances whatsoever still live under one roof with his parents.
In addition, a mature man will know how to carry himself in public respectably and understands his role as an adult. A true man has to be mature enough to care for himself and be able to take care of all his needs on his own.
4. He has clear goals and ambitions
Mature women know that they should never plan their future with a man who has no future plans himself. A man who has made clear to himself what he wants from life and has the ambition to pursue it will always be more attractive than he who has made peace with mediocrity.
Whatever you do, never allow yourself to be average, as it is just as close to the bottom as it is to the top.
5. He is emotionally strong
A desirable man does not cry when things don’t go as planned. He does not sink into a depressive state as soon as he fails. Rather, he analyzes why it didn’t work out and finds a way to make it work. If you wish to belong to a group if highly respected and desirable men, you have to be emotionally strong.
You can’t be the guy who falls down like a tree with no roots as soon as you face an obstacle, yet still expect a woman’s admiration. Your emotional toughness will be proof that you are a man who is able to make it through the pitfalls of life. Hopefully, you understand that women want saviors.
Is it easy to develop all of these characteristics? Definitely not. And even those who possess most of them will surely find themselves lacking a few. But the important part is to understand how vital they are to becoming a man who can attract the woman he wants to be with.
In the end, it will not be what you say or do for her that will make her love you. It will be the man you have worked hard to become.
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