Life is one messy, chaotic mixture of ups and downs, laughs and cries, love and hatred. It’s like a neverending rollercoaster of emotions. And yet, everything that comes in our way happens for a reason. Every struggle, every pain, every backstab happens in our lives to teach us a valuable lesson. Even the failures and the moments of hopelessness.
You are not the sole reason for your failed relationships, so stop being so hard on yourself.
Bad things happen all the time. What’s important is how you respond to them and how you accept the consequences. This doesn’t mean you’re innocent and you did nothing wrong. But even though you might be the one who started the storm, you shouldn’t be blaming yourself for the rest of your life. This burden is going to be too heavy to bear on your own.
You weren’t the only one responsible for your failed relationships and your painful heartbreaks, so don’t beat yourself up about all that.
After all, there are many reasons for a relationship to fall apart. People fall in and out of love every day. Sometimes we can’t control our feelings, and that’s okay. Love can never be forced. Blaming yourself for not loving somebody anymore is not only illogical but also extremely damaging for your mental health.
Whatever happened, it’s in the past. There is nothing you can do to change it. That’s why you should stop beating yourself up for something you no longer have control over. Even if you triggered the struggle, even if you created this whole mess in your life, blaming yourself will only make things worse. Instead of making your life miserable, get back on your feet, take a deep breath, and accept the consequences.
No matter how painful it may seem, this is the only way to move on.
The first step you need to take towards facing and accepting the consequences is to understand your mistakes. Make sure you don’t end up repeating them ever again. Think about what led your relationship to its end. What made you fall out of love? Try to look back and analyze the little things that caused this heartbreak. This will help you see everything clearly, and realize it wasn’t all your fault.
Every single one of your mistakes is teaching you something. Learning from them, instead of blaming yourself, will help you further in life. You will be able to confidently face every challenge life brings you. This will give you the emotional strength you need to move on. Letting go of the guilt will liberate your mind and allow you to grow as a person.
Here’s to new beginnings! Forgive yourself and start over. Stop blaming yourself for every struggle you experience. Whether someone hurt you, or you hurt them, acknowledge the mistake, apologize if you’re in the wrong, and simply move on.
Release yourself from all these regrets and what-ifs. Stop burdening yourself with things you can’t control. Accept your flaws and appreciate the lessons life has taught you. Continue your journey with a clear and peaceful headspace. Because your journey doesn’t stop here. This is just the beginning.