If you have fallen in love with a narcissist you know exactly how messy things can get and what the consequences for you can be.
The painful truth is that it can take a long time for the victim to realize what the narcissist is doing because off all the manipulation that goes on.
Narcissists have a colossal sense of self-importance.
They believe they’re automatically entitled to other people’s attention and they think they are better than anyone else. They do not care about love or empathy but they pretend they do in order to get what they need.
They deceive, manipulate, and blame everyone else when things go wrong in their life. They see the people they use as their puppets, and they control them to get what they want. They can break down a person’s life without blinking an eye.
The victim will feel used, isolated, heartbroken, and clueless about how they could have found themselves in this situation. It will take them a long time to recover and collect all the shattered pieces of their heart before they can fight back against the narcissist.
If you are uncertain as to how to recognize whether you are the victim of a narcissist, here are 3 telling signs that can help you.
1. You were doing all you could just to please the abuser
Your life with a narcissist may have begun with them admiring your character, helping you grow, making compliments, and acting infatuated while doing things that made you happy. But as time went on they switched the whole focus onto themselves. They became the one and only star in your relationship.
They made you fall in love deeply with them just so you can serve them better. In their mind, you only existed when they needed something from you. You were treated as a servant, and you were forced to survive on the crumbs of love and generosity that they were sometimes leaving for you.
2. They were able to convince you to do and believe everything they told you
Anytime you’ve found the strength to run away, the abuser did all they could to bring you back. They used lies and threats. They made you believe that no one else would want you. They lied and manipulated. They begged you and you took them back. Because they’ve got full control over you. You just weren’t able to say no.
You tried everything to change them and you thought that it would work, that things will get better in time. You desperately hoped their senses will come to them because your romantic nature has always believed in true love and the happily ever after. You believed that you two were destined for each other.
3. You felt like you were being put through a series of horror tests
Narcissists enjoy creating problems that don’t really exist. They love testing the limits of how much you’re willing to put up with while showing you that they are the ones in control. They make you feel like your life will turn to ruin if you ever leave them. That is how nasty they are.
If you have been part of such a relationship and you found the strength to escape – kudos to you! You were brave enough to do what most people cannot. Be proud of your bravery and never let anyone treat you this way again.
But if you’re still trapped in a relationship with a narcissist, please run away as soon as you can. Come to terms with the fact that this person refuses to change, and you don’t deserve to live a life of agony and heartbreak. Do it for your own sake.
Have you ever been the victim of a narcissist?
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