What is ghosting?
Ghosting is used to refer to the act of disappearing without a reason and leaving someone lost and confused. If somebody ghosts you, they end the relationship without warning you or telling you. They cut off all communication and leave you wondering what has happened. Initially, you may worry or think that something bad has happened to them. Unfortunately, you will soon realize that they have cut you out of their lives on purpose and without warning. While it is true that ghosting is a relatively new term, people have been disappearing and leaving their partners, friends, and families without warning for years.
There are 3 reasons why people ghost.
Most people think that there can only be one explanation behind ghosting: the person did not love or care about you. Of course, this can be true and in any case, ghosting is an act of cowardice. However, it must be noted that there is more than one explanation.
That is, it is possible that they may have vanished from your life because they became overwhelmed by the commitment or the relationship’s reality.
1. Fear of confrontation
Some people are too afraid to face their partners and say that they want to break up. For this reason, they might decide to cut them out of their lives without any warning. When doing so, they are being selfish as they think of their own feelings instead of their partner’s.
2. Serial ghosting
Unsurprisingly, people who have ghosted in the past are likely to do so in the future. In other words, the person may have just been a player or someone who never had any intention of committing and being in a serious relationship. What is worse, they probably lied to you and made empty promises because they knew it was what you wanted to hear.
3. Emotional immaturity
Not everybody knows how to be in a healthy relationship. Some people simply lack the emotional maturity that is required for a healthy and committed relationship as they fail to put in the time and effort it needs. When things start to get difficult or serious, an emotionally immature person may get scared and disappear.
How can you recover from being ghosted?
If you have ever been ghosted, you will be familiar with the pain, confusion, and devastation that accompanies the abandonment. Being ghosted can result in feelings of low self-esteem and embarrassment. You might face criticism, judgment, and thousands of questions from friends and family who want to know what happened. This will be extremely difficult as you yourself will feel lost and confused. During this period, it is important that you treat yourself with kindness and love. Remember that it is not your fault and that ghosting is an act of cowardice. Seek the help and love of friends and family, meditate, and take a break from social media.
You have all it takes to recover from the heartbreak and devastation. With the proper self-love and self-care, you will once again be happy and content.
