You Might be Dating an Emotionally Immature Man and Not Knowing It. Here is how to tell:
When was the last time when your partner was mad at you for no reason? Or the last time when he was jealous and suspicious, even paranoid about your fidelity? If you recognized yourself in these situations, then you should definitely read this article. It might save you a ton of pain and tears, even you are having the most beautiful relationship at the moment.
Speaking of emotional immaturity, we are speaking mainly about the lack of knowledge about ourselves, our emotions, feelings, and our thoughts.
People who are “suffering” from this condition often look normal, intelligent, outgoing and warm, but on the other hand, they tend to overreact, manipulate their partners, even hurt them unwillingly or not.
Emotional immaturity might be really hard to find, especially if you are deeply in love with the person.
Here are some of the things to look for if you want to protect yourself and have a better relationship with your partner:
Emotionally immature people love playing victims. They are always unsatisfied, feeling bad and depressed; they are proud owners of the “bad-things-always-happen-to-me” mindset, and would, even if the conditions are in their favor. People who love playing victims often have brutally low self-esteem, but bear in mind that they might be very vengeful and aggressive.
Playing the victim has its psychological explanation. This behavior is a result of a person’s desire for love and attention, which might turn the relationship into a codependent one.
Saving others and bringing happiness in their lives
If you ever hear the words “I just want to make you happy” from your man, then this must ring the emotional immaturity bell to you. Immature people often want to make the other people happy by sacrificing their own happiness and to play the role of a savior in their lives.
This happens by two reasons: a) the person wants to fill the emptiness inside them by being in favor of the others and b) the person wants to a part of your life and happiness, only to feel that they belong to somebody.
Sounds familiar, doesn’t it?
Lack of control
The lack of control over the emotions and the thoughts is another significant feature of the immature people. They can easily subdue to their primitive feelings—anger, jealousy, paranoia, sadness, guilt—and embrace them with open arms, even if these feelings don’t match the reality.
It might sound a bit harsh but yes—all these emotional states are primitive, e.g. irrational (in most of the times), and it is hard for the immature people to realize them, thus to control them. In some cases, the lack of control could be dangerous, which leads to the next feature of the immature fellows — absence of guilt.
Absence of guilt
The absence of guild, e.g.”It’s your fault, not mine” is often seen in the narcissistic men who refuse to take responsibility of their actions, and think of themselves as innocent and unmistakable. Talking about narcissistic men, you must imagine a walking cocktail of emotional immaturity and tons of psychological issues, but that’s a topic for another article.
If your partner often blames you for anything and never takes responsibility for his actions, then you should probably check some dating sites and save yourself the psychological bul$h1t.