Sure, children must respect and show appreciation for their parents, but that does not mean that they should be made to feel as if they are forever in debt for being born.
For some reason, many people believe that their children must act like their servants, and that is just wrong on so many levels.
As a parent, you are the one who brought your children into this world but that does not mean that you own them in any way. Moreover, they are human beings and should never be treated as property. Of course, being a parent is a difficult job that does not come with an operation manual, but rather than being too harsh on them you should be doing what you can to make their lives better.
When you feel anger building up inside you, don’t take it out on your children.
Instead, take a moment to think things through and bet back to the situation when you feel calmer.
Sure, sometimes you may have the right to fee frustrated if your kids have disrespected you but you should not allow yourself to immediately explode. Also, it won’t hurt to do some introspection and ask yourself whether you have respected them enough yourself. Maybe it’s time to have a serious talk in order to rebuild your relationship.
One of the most difficult things about being a mother or a father is finding the balance between being harsh and being fun.
You want your children to develop and exceed in all areas of life, right? They should not be made to feel like they cannot express themselves properly because they have no one to talk to about their ups and downs.
Many of us remember what it felt like being teenagers whose parents constantly made things worse for them. Do you wish to bring this upon your own kids? When you are guiding them through life you must do so from a place of healing and understanding rather than a place of distant coldness.
One of the most crucial things we must come to understand while growing up ourselves is just how fulfilling the process can be. We all go through completely unique stages of this experience, some of which can even be hard to describe. The more you treat your children as something you own by law the more they will fight back and dislike you as they get older. They will lash out to prove to you that they are independent beings fully capable of self-reliance.
Would you not rather see them grow into fully rounded and happy people?
Do not try to mold them into your own image or make them into something you always wanted to become but never could.
Allow them to choose for themselves and watch in awe where their creative minds take them. They are capable of so much more than you may believe.
Yes, we created them and we love them with all our hearts, but they are still autonomous human beings with beautiful minds of their own. Let us treat them as such, because after all, they are our future.
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