Yes, toxic people have a sweet side – But don’t let that fool you
We’ve all been there.
We’ve all fallen for toxic people because of their unbelievably charming energy.
At first, it attracts you like a powerful magnet and makes you believe this person is nothing but absolutely flawless. But don’t let their deceitful charisma fool you.
If you give yourself time and think about it, you might realize their toxicity comes from their multiple sides to their personality. They have the evil ability to adapt to any situation and are well-aware of how to use it in their favor. That’s why their vibe attracts you – they simply know how to make you believe they are everything you’ve ever wanted.
However, falling for someone toxic doesn’t make you foolish. You’re not stupid for falling in a skillful manipulator’s trap. Sometimes it’s almost impossible to avoid it. After all, how could you not be attracted to someone whose allure is so incredibly captivating?
Toxic people perfectly understand that they can catch more flies with honey. That’s why they embrace their sweet side as much as possible, especially at the beginning of the relationship. They can be generous, thoughtful, compassionate, and even affectionate. They can make you feel like the most beautiful, confident being on Earth. But they can crush this fake-built love and confidence in the blink of an eye.
When a toxic person is acting all nice and lovable, they are actually perfecting their strategy on how to easily manipulate you in the future.
They need some time to study your character. In the meantime, they ask you multiple questions: What’s your favorite color? Where did you grow up? Were you close with your parents? It’s all because they want to collect enough valuable information they can later use to mess up with your mind.
Meanwhile, you fall deeper and deeper into their deceptive trap. You get so involved with them that eventually, you find yourself unable to let go. Unfortunately, most times when you realize what you’ve got yourself into, it’s already too late.
However, there is always a way to get out. Toxic people are not invincible. They are vulnerable human beings like everybody else. What makes them different from others is that they can be both adorably sweet and extremely nasty. One day, they can be the most gentle person you’ve ever met, and the other, they can treat you like garbage and make you wish you were never born.
Accepting they can be both good and evil is probably the hardest step towards freeing yourself from their poisonous presence.
In the process, you often ask yourself whether you can live with both sides of their personality. But the right question is whether their heart-melting sweetness is worth the emotional trauma they are causing you. Is their charm worth the tremendous pain they are forcing you to go through? Is their appeal worth the complete breakdown of your mental health?
Do you want to know the answer? It’s always NO. No charisma, allure, or fake empathy is worth the struggle, remember that! If someone truly loves you and cares about you, they will constantly make you feel appreciated. They will dedicate every single move they make into making sure you know how much you mean to them. They will treat you as you deserve, not as they please. Moreover, they will be consistent in their actions, feelings, emotions, and behavior.
While a toxic person changes their attitude to best suit them for the situation, someone who truly loves you will never take such an advantage.
If they genuinely care about you, they will never use your vulnerability against you. They will never intentionally mess up with your mind. They will simply cherish and respect you for who you are.
Undoubtedly, toxic people are not easy to get away from. They have plenty of great qualities that sometimes make you rule out their bad ones. But don’t let their sweetness fool you. You deserve tо be treated well every single day, not only when they are in the mood. You deserve to be with someone who would bring out the best in you, not the stress in you. Never forget that!