Do you get turned on by imaginative people who are not afraid to show off their intellect? Are you attracted more to the mind than to the looks of others?
Do you find intelligence sexy? Then you might be sapiosexual.
(n.) A person who is sexually attracted to intelligence in others.
As Psychology Today clarifies, the word “sapio” comes from the Latin word “sapere,” which means to be wise. People who define themselves as sapiosexuals are attracted not to the looks of others but to their minds. They admire others’ ability to use their potential to the fullest by engaging in deep conversations, embracing emotional intelligence, and constantly seeking more knowledge.
Sapiosexuals, who are aware of their true nature, love to challenge themselves and explore their sensuality. However, they are quite skeptical when it comes to investing their energy into relationships unless they are absolutely sure the other person satisfies their intellectual cravings.
The best-case scenario for sapiosexuals is to find someone who perfectly matches their level of intelligence.
Sometimes, the attraction happens beyond your control. Your brain gets drawn to someone’s unique perception of the world without even telling you. Eventually, you find yourself head over heels with a person whose thoughtfulness, ability to empathize, and even the way they respond to your sarcasm with more sarcasm turns you on.
That’s when you realize that you have finally found someone who is clever enough to get your jokes and doesn’t consider your quirks as flaws but loves you for them instead. You have finally met someone with whom you can talk about everything for hours, not even thinking about looking at your phone. And the best part is that you don’t have to pretend. You can simply be yourself, and that’s enough. This amazing sensation makes you feel liberated after having to limit yourself so many times for people who never appreciated your brilliance.
For sapiosexuals, the sexiest part of someone is their brain.
The moment two sapiosexual creatures unite is extraordinary. Their souls shine brighter than all of the stars in the sky above them. Their minds develop an instant emotional bond that is able to pass the test of time. They feel as if they knew each other long before they even met. The connection they form is way beyond physical attraction.
Sadly, in today’s society, people often overlook the power of the mind and prefer to focus on more superficial traits. This inevitably makes those who value intelligence over looks feel incredibly alone and uncomfortable.
Sapiosexuals are individuals who want to get to know the other person before jumping into a relationship. Instead of rushing things through, they prefer to take their time to establish deep and real connections. This brings a special something to the dating experience. It allows the two partners to develop genuine feelings for one another naturally, through meaningful conversations that shed light on their personalities, not on their physical features.
As a sapiosexual, you look for someone who is not only intellectually compatible with you, but also completes you emotionally, romantically, and sexually.
Perhaps many have commented your standards are way too high. But that is definitely not the case. Sadly, it is sometimes difficult to explain to others that you need more than eye candy – you need soul food.
The criticism you face may take a toll on your mental health. It may make you doubt yourself and your choices. You may even decide to give up on your beliefs and try to be like everyone else to feel accepted. But giving up on your nature can never be the answer to happiness and true love. Thankfully, you are intelligent enough to realize that.
Besides, if you turn your back on your beliefs, those who share them won’t be able to find you and see you for who you truly are.
Being drawn to a person’s mind is not something to be ashamed of. It is something you should be proud of. Honestly, nothing in this world is more attractive than intelligence. So embrace your true nature and be a proud sapiosexual. You are not alone in this!