Take a good look at your life.
Do all your mistakes come crashing down on you?
Often these mistakes are similar to each other in nature. As the imperfect beings that we are, we have a tendency to repeat the same mistakes time after time. But there are some logical reasons behind all this, and in this article, we will look at them in detail.
1. We don’t take ownership
Sure, some things that happen to us we have no control over but there are also those honest mistakes that we often make. However, most of the things that go wrong for us are in large part conscious choices we have made. Choices that we struggle to take ownership of, so we refer to them as mistakes. And when we don’t take ownership of our mistakes, we cannot change them.
It’s irrelevant whether you believe in your own words. When it comes down to making your most important life choices it is what you believe to be true that matters most.
If you have persuaded yourself that you are no good or undeserving, then you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. Your attitude and what you believe to be true in your heart will manifest in your experiences. And even if your experiences are wonderful, your nested beliefs will tell you to strive for more.
We all know this but we’ll repeat it anyway. If you want a different life you have to take a different approach to it. Unhappiness is mainly the result of our own bad decisions and our actions and inactions.
We often repeat the same damaging mistakes because we keep on being stick with our bad habits. And in order for us to reap positive results, those habits must go. This is the main reason most people find it difficult to change.
How you can help yourself
Change your approach to life. Try different things. Try doing things you’re afraid of doing but know that should be done and you will see positive results. And don’t say something doesn’t work without even giving it a go. All the mistakes that you have made, someone has already made before you and figured out a way around them. Learn from those who have failed miserably but kept on pushing and overcame adversity despite all odds. Form new habits and stop doing things that don’t give you the results you want.
Tell the truth or at least don’t lie
It is crucial that you are honest with yourself and those around you as much as you can. That doesn’t mean that you should cause other people pain by telling them what you know will hurt them. It means only doing things that feel right. What you truly believe in will translate into your relationships with others and yourself. If, for instance, you believe that you are not good enough for a certain person, no matter how much they try to tell you the opposite, you will never be able to feel it. You will start believing a lie instead of the truth. But once you get honest with yourself and you start forming healthier habits you will inevitably experience positive change. You will start appreciating your own worth and your ability to overcome any problems that come your way.
It is often that we choose to blame other people when things don’t go our way. We blame others due to the pain we caused ourselves by making the wrong decisions. We want to shut ourselves off from the truth because the truth hurts. But when you choose to take responsibility for your own actions you can access a feeling of empowerment and pride. And when you feel this way, you have no time to seek blame, but only a way forward.
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