“I remember one desolate Sunday night, wondering: Is this how I’m going to spend the rest of my life? Married to someone who is perpetually distracted and somewhat wistful, as though a marvelous party is going on in the next room, which but for me he could be attending?”
― Suzanne Finnamore, Split: A Memoir of Divorce
What does cheating say about a person?
Unfaithfulness is a common problem many of us are forced to deal with at one point or another.
Cheaters are no different from the rest of us because we all make mistakes. Yet, some of them think cheating is not such a big deal.
Cheating comes in different forms, but there are some characteristics most cheaters share. In this article, we will focus on what infidelity says about someone’s character.
Are their sins unforgivable because they cheated? Maybe they aren’t but there certainly are some issues they need to work on.
You will be able to notice them when you learn about the traits most cheaters share.
What does infidelity say about someone’s character? It says they may be inconsiderate, impulsive, and lack self-restraint, but there’s more to it.
If you ever wondered what cheating says about a person, read on to find out.
1. Their relationship doesn’t satisfy them
If you are in a perfectly healthy and fulfilled relationship, cheating likely won’t even cross your mind. You have all that you need with a person who makes you happy.
But if you are not happy or if your feelings towards your partner have started to fade, it might bring you to the point where you will start daydreaming about another person.
One thing you should keep in mind if you’re in a similar situation is that having an affair – be it emotional or physical – will not get you anywhere good.
Being unfaithful and seeking comfort in the arms of another person will never make you feel better; on the contrary, you will feel filthy on the inside because you will know you betrayed the one who once truly loved you.
2. They have low self-esteem
The worse a person feels about themselves the more they crave other people’s recognition and the more likely it is that they will be unfaithful. A lot of people cheat in order to feel more wanted and empowered.
If you are a cheater, you need to start building your self-esteem before your need for recognition drives your relationship into the ground. Be honest with your partner and let them know that you need to feel more wanted.
Cheating will never fix that problem, but your partner will certainly be able to help you. Work on becoming a better version of yourself instead of causing pain to others because of the way you feel about yourself.
Try to see yourself the way your other half sees you… and do not ruin that by cheating on them and therefore making them see you in a different way.
3. They don’t truly love their partner
If the thought of going out with someone else keeps appearing in your head, that is a definite sign that your feelings for your partner are weakening.
You cannot say that you sincerely love a person and then go ahead and cause them such immeasurable pain. This is completely unacceptable.
The truth is that someone who cheats never really loved their partner to begin with. If they did, they would never risk causing them any sort of pain because of the love they once felt for them.
When you truly and honestly love another human being, you should have eyes only for them, and your heart should belong only to them. Sharing this with other people is out of the question.
4. They are cowards
Cheaters don’t have the guts to openly talk to their partner about their feelings and how they truly see things, so they choose to cheat to avoid the problem.
The mere act of cheating is pure cowardice. If you cannot let your partner go before you choose to be with someone else, it isn’t because you care for them, it is because you are not brave enough to stand face to face with them and tell them how you feel.
You cheat on them behind their back, hoping they will never find out. But, do not think for a second that you will get away with it because the truth will come out when you least expect it.
5. They are selfish
If you cheat on a person who you know loves you and cares for you, it goes without saying that you are selfish and a little narcissistic.
The most important thing for such people is that they do what makes them feel good, so they don’t even consider what they may be putting their partner through.
Even if you don’t feel the same about your partner any longer, you should still think about what you’re doing to them by cheating.
Before you cheat, think about how you would feel if you truly loved someone and they did the same to you. Also, don’t forget that we always pay for our sins sooner or later.
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