What makes us immensely attractive? Well, it depends on who’s asking.
Let’s face it, like it or not, the law of attraction has this spot on for many of us – we don’t really attract what we want, but we attract what we ARE.
Sometimes it’s pretty hard to put in words what makes someone attractive.
Usually, it’s a combination of many things that include looks, logic, intellect, personality and many more. More often than not one factor is not enough when it comes to attraction. Imagine this, you meet this amazingly looking young lady or gentleman with a hot body, but with the mindset of a child, and I don’t mean it in a good, cheeky way. Face it, even if you’re in just for the sex, it will probably become boring sooner than later if there is no emotional or intellectual connection.
Some of us are crazy about unavailable people, others like kind people, angry people, crazy people, funny people, serious people,
So yeah, we are all different and therefore we find different things appealing. Yet, there are some basic things that most of us find immensely attractive.
Below I’ve listed 6 of them.
1. Sense Of Humor
Good sense of humor is immensely attractive. End of discussion.
There are even volumes of research that proves this, some of which you can read here, here and here. Sometimes life gets tough and we have to deal with all sorts of difficulties, but having someone who can easily make us laugh and forget our troubles is a real treasure.
Sense of humor is also connected to good cognitive fitness, creativity, high intelligence and ability to think out of the box, and all of those things are pretty hot.
Confidence makes you shine in all fields of your life, but when it comes to attraction, it’s the king.
Most of us are insecure about something, but we have to focus on our virtues instead.
But why is self-confidence so attractive?
I’m sure there’s some deep psychological or evolutionary reason for this that dates back to the Stone Age, but there’s also a social factor. Imagine someone who is extremely confident(but not cocky!), genuinely happy, secure in themselves…someone who got their shit together and they know it damn, well, wouldn’t you want to be around them? It makes people wonder what’s the deal with that fascinating and confident person and they want to discover more. Self-confidence also makes you more approachable and easier to talk to, which breaks the ice when meeting new people.
Who wants to be around mean or rude people? Imagine going on a date with someone who kicks puppies or is rude to the waiter, would that make you feel good? Doubt that, unless you’re totally messed up. There’s something heart-warming when watching someone perform an act of kindness to a total stranger.
Kindness towards others and oneself is something that is really attractive to most people. And don’t worry, it doesn’t make you seem weak, just the opposite – it’s a sign of immense emotional strength.
As the popular internet meme says, “People are prettiest when they talk about something they really love with passion in their eyes”. Passion is immensely attractive. It shows that the person in front of you is enthusiastic and has a strong will and a purpose in their life.
Your passion defines you and puts you on a pedestal, it makes you shine. Even better, if you have the self-confidence to express your passion without giving a damn what the others think, makes you a real rockstar in the eyes of most people.
This reminds me of the story of how Elon Musk hooked up with his children’s mother – he talked to her about…electric cars! They weren’t so popular back then, but imagine sitting in a bar, talking to someone like Elon about his passion…so electrifying!
5. Being open-minded
Ignorant people are immensely attractive…not!
Open-mindedness is linked to optimism and ability to solve problems and make better decisions. Open-minded people don’t rush to any particular judgment too quickly, which helps them make more informed decisions. It also prevents you from jumping to conclusions without knowing the full story, which could lead to huge limitations in all fields of life. Being open-minded gives you more opportunities, which helps you have a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset. All of that makes you a better person to be around, therefore – a more attractive one.
6. They make others feel important
Immensely attractive people know that every person is important and can make the world better.
They listen to the person in front of them carefully without interruptions and show a genuine interested in them. They also notice things about other people. They make a note of something they said or did well and point it out. Wouldn’t you be attracted to someone who makes you feel really special?