We’re conditioned from an early age into believing that finding the ‘one’, having a family and settling down is what life’s all about, but actually, life is about so much more than that.
Society has pushed ‘this perfect life’ picture on to us for years and created a sense of fear that if we don’t achieve this the perfect life picture we will end up alone and unhappy, and its sad because many of us will grow up with this belief.
To top it all there’s this looming thing called the ‘biological clock’ which drives many of us into relationships we aren’t truly happy in all for the sake of procreating. As a result we see more and more young people tying the knot out of fear that they will end up miserable and lonely and would not have left any off spring to carry their name into the future.
The most important question we are all forgetting to ask is; WHAT’S THE HURRY?
Why is it so important for us humans to feel whole with another person
Choosing to settle in a relationship with someone you don’t truly love is a one-way ticket to misery.
Having a kid with someone you can’t get along with or truly love is also a one-way ticket to chaos and unpaid child fare, not to mention the fact that the kid will see the lack of love and that will probably affect them in their adulthood.
There are so many reasons as to why sticking it out in times of loneliness is in your best interest, we’ve compiled a list of the 4 best reasons for you to consider before settling down:
If you think about it, being single allows you to have a one on one relationship with yourself, meaning you get to master self-love, because as the saying goes, ‘You cannot love another if you do not love yourself first.’ Another perk of being single is that you can focus on learning more, growing, improving your knowledge and improving the way you deal with people and the relationships you have with them.
2. The fear of being alone can distort your priorities
Lets say you have a goal you would like to achieve, and you’re half way there. Then, all of a sudden, you begin to start feeling lonely and feel the need to fill that loneliness with the company of another. Next thing you know, all your energy and time is dedicated to this person and your new relationship. Its harder to achieve your goals when you’re with someone who isn’t interested in helping or motivation you to achieve them. Achieving your goal and then sharing your success with a lover is far better than feeling like you’ve failed yourself half way through a relationship you’ve began to realize isn’t helping you grow.
3. True love is worth the wait, no matter how long
When you settle in a relationship that isn’t based on true love you automatically accept that as your reality. Where as if you were to wait for true love, the experience will out weigh the time you spent waiting by 100 times, if not more and chances of it lasting is way higher than if you were to settle for a love you found in fear of ending up alone and miserable.
When you choose not to settle until you’ve found the one, you allow yourself the chance to meet other ‘soul mates’, people who you connect with, not just on a sexual or romantic level but on a spiritual and intellectual level.
Connections you will never find if you settle down out of fear or loneliness.
We all deserve love that sets our souls on fire and lovers that motivate us to be the best versions of ourselves. It’s up to us to decide whether we are going to let the sting of loneliness and fear dictate how we live our lives. With the right partner, life can either be a thrill of a ride or a bottomless pit of misery and sadness. It’s up to us to choose.