“Alone had always felt like an actual place to me as if it weren’t a state of being, but rather a room where I could retreat to be who I was.” Cheryl Strayed
How dopamine affects us?
On one hand dopamine is responsible to feel short moments of joy every time we do something fast, take risks, or find out interesting, new things. On the other hand it exists a neuromodulator called Acetylcholine, which is also responsible for feeling happy but in a more relaxed way.
In her book The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World. Dr. Marti Olsen Laney writes that while extroverts are not very sensitive to dopamine, introverts are sensitive to it, so too big doses of dopamine make them overstimulated and anxious.
That is why Introverts are people who prefer quiet, peaceful environments because they feel exhausted after socializing and could only regain their strength and energy by being alone for more extended periods.
But this is not the only interesting thing about introverts since this group of people needs peace much more than anyone else they often behave in ways that could look weird and even inappropriate to others.
To find out what makes introverts so special and different we asked ten people who are true introverts and have this type of personality what things that are not typical of and might even seem weird to others they usually do and here’s what they told us:
1. I turn down invitations because I want to be alone
Not that I want to be impolite to people who invite me to go somewhere, but if I’ve been socially too active the past few days I need my alone time. It’s sad but true – social interactions are incredibly exhausting for me, so If I’ve been out with buddies two nights in a row, I can’t handle another evening in a crowded place where I am expected to have fun while socializing with other people. That’s why I would politely refuse going out or attending an event if I feel emotionally drained.
James, 28, San Francisco, CA
2. I cannot stand crowded and noisy places
I cannot stay in crowded spaces or places for more than 10 minutes. Don’t get me wrong, I am not anti social, but crowds make me feel nervous and uncomfortable. I can’t stand loud noise either.
Nancy 30, Toronto ON, Canada
3. I avoid talking on the phone
I need meaningful interaction with people which means deep conversations in person. Small talks and phone calls are pointless because I can’t see the true reactions of the other person. I avoid talking on the phone for more than 3 minutes.
Nick, 40, Nashville, TN
4. I’d always prefer staying at home to going out
Call me crazy or nerd (many do) but I would always prefer staying home watching TV or just lying in the bed staring at the ceiling while doing nothing instead of going out with a bunch of people who only talk bull*it. I am certainly not interested in someone whose only goal is to get drunk.
Brittany 20, Stamford, CT
5. I love travelling on my own
When I travel, I do it with one or two companions who are also close friends. Otherwise, I prefer traveling alone. I don’t care what others think of me because of this. I cannot stand having to spend too much time in the company of people I don’t like.
Stella 30, New York
6. I prefer watching others instead of talking to them
No matter if I go to a party or a concert, I prefer staying away from the crowd and observing what is going on. I love watching what other people are doing while I am thinking about different things.
Sandra 25, San Diego, CA
7. I adore reading
There’s something so romantic in spending time alone in the company of an exciting book. I love sitting comfortably in my rocking chair, drinking tea and reading when I am alone at home. But reading is something I do whenever and wherever it is possible. The truth is that I prefer reading to talking to other people. It also distracts me from the stupid things others are saying to each other because such conversations usually annoy me to death.
Christina 45, Chicago, IL
8. I chose my inner circle very very precisely
I think we only have a few real friends and the others are nothing more than buddies to have fun with and I don’t need buddies – they are a waste of time for me. I have a group of people who are very dear to me. They are also trustworthy because we can always rely on each other and we also have meaningful conversations. I would never spend more than 5 minutes with someone who I can’t have a meaningful conversation with.
Josh 30, Santa Fe, NM
9. I don’t like birthday parties
I know it’s weird, but I hate my birthday and as well as all the fuss that goes with it. Everyone expects me to throw a party or do something to celebrate it, but for me, this is so exhausting! I prefer spending my birthday in the comfort of my home because honestly, I don’t find anything special about these days.
Sarah 29, Minneapolis, MN
10. I prefer shopping online
I feel exhausted after shopping for long hours, wandering around different stores, having endless draining conversations about the goods. I think it’s that pointless interaction with those fake shop assistants who would sell their own grandmother to add some extra cash to their salary. That makes shopping difficult and annoying for me.
When I go online, it is all so easy. I have enough time as well as peace and quiet to attentively read the descriptions of the products and to chose the best one for me.
Nadya 22, Detroit, MI
And these are only a few of the endless list of weird things that introverts do.
And most importantly these people feel happy about the way they behave despite the fact they might look strange to others. But as Susan Cain says:
“Don’t think of introversion as something that needs to be cured…Spend your free time the way you like, not the way you think you’re supposed to.”
Please share your experience in the comments.