6 definite things to keep private to your relationship if you want it to remain strong
It’s normal to talk to your friends and family about your relationship. We can all use some good advice from time to time. There are some things, however, that should stay only between you and your significant other. If you are someone who likes to open up a lot, knowing which topics you should avoid can help keep your relationship strong and healthy.
Here are 6 things you should definitely keep private to your relationship.
1. Financial troubles
Money is a highly sensitive subject for any person who doesn’t have millions in the vault. If you and your partner are having troubles with paying off debt, that’s nobody’s business but your own. You two should work on a plan to solve this issue. And if you need external help with figuring it out, seek advice from a professional. By sharing this information with your friends, you are betraying your partner’s trust in you. Keep your mouth shut on this one.
2. Family secrets
Some secrets are just not yours to share. You should always keep things that your partner has told you about his or her family in wraps. While it may feel tempting to share these secrets with someone you’re close to, think about how you would feel if the roles were switched and your honey told your family’s business to their friends, or even to their own family.
3. Anything sex-related
Sex is perhaps the most personal of all things. From issues related to performance to all the naughty details to naked selfies, your love life should be strictly kept private no matter what.
In addition, not everyone is into public displays of affection. While your partner may be ok with you addressing them with cute nicknames in private, they may get embarrassed to be called that in public. If that is the case, it’s important to respect his or her wish.
4. Your partners (or your) infidelity
If either one of you cheated and you are nevertheless still trying to make it work, telling others about it will most definitely hinder the process. Cheating on the person you love is a universal negative, so you’ll undoubtedly be inviting external judgment into your relationship. Regardless of how you try to rationalize it with your friends, they won’t be able to understand your perspective. Work through it with your partner only.
5. Your fights
We have all had an argument with our partner and felt the need to tell a parent, a sibling, cousin or best friend. And while it’s certainly normal to ask for guidance and advice from a loved one when it comes to the major things, it is best to keep petty arguments private until you reach a resolution. That’s because while you may be able to get over it quickly, kiss your partner and make amends, your family and friends are more likely to hold grudges. You wouldn’t want them to dislike your partner over something silly, so keep your differences to yourself until you can tell the story with a smile instead of tears on your face.
6. Your partner’s insecurities
If you know that your partner feels insecure about something, don’t bring it up to others. While you may have good intentions to ask for help on how to deal with an issue your partner is faced with, the last thing they would want is to hear that you’re airing out their personal thoughts and fears.
Do not discuss deeply personal or intimate things about your relationship with anyone but your partner!
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