Do you often have moments where something insignificant causes your blood to boil with anger?
You’re not alone…
Probably, at that time, you aren’t aware that you were upset about another thing that happened before, and that the cause for that anger was not as bad as you’re making it out to be. You are not thinking clearly because you are being overwhelmed by built-up frustration.
The truth is, when you have to deal with conflict and you’re already raging about something else, you are setting yourself up for a disaster.
So what can you do to avoid this?
Accept the feeling of discomfort
The first thing you need to do in order to return to a calmer state is allowing yourself to be upset and not being judgemental about it. In fact, this is actually the key to mindfulness. You can acknowledge the feeling, but you shouldn’t fight it. Simply accept it for what it is.
As soon as you stop trying to fight your feelings, you will recognize the true reason you became frustrated. And the better you learn to do that, the better you’ll be able to deal with difficult situations in general.
Your main goal should be to reach a state in which you’d be ok feeling uncomfortable from time to time. And wouldn’t you rather be in a state where you can handle stress more efficiently?
The truth is, you have to learn to cope with the uncomfortable. Because running away from difficult situations is not going to help you in the long run. It is impossible to escape them. But once you reach a place of mindful acceptance, you will be much better equipped to handle adversity.
Self-regulation
Maybe you don’t feel ready, but that’s alright. We all have to find our way to mindfulness, and it certainly isn’t easy. But if you don’t work hard to reach that special state, you will keep on walking on the path of unnecessary anger, and this will harm you emotionally and physically as the years go by.
There are a number of things you can do to self-regulate, and these things need to be practiced on a regular basis. The goal is to become comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Meditation is a great way to train yourself to be alright no matter how harsh the storms in your life may be.
Breathing properly is also crucial, and the two combined are even better.
Check out the guided meditation and breathing technique videos below to get yourself started.
Cold showers can also do wonders when it comes to achieving emotional balance.
Accept yourself as you are during and after stress
The most important thing you need to do is learn how to make peace with your emotions, no matter how hard this may seem at the time, and do what works best for you to self-regulate and be in touch with yourself.
By practicing mindfulness you will inevitably enrich your relationships as well as your own wellbeing. So what are you waiting for? Start practicing now!
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