Most often than not people think that being single is wrong.
Actually, many of us would consider this to be a failure in their personal lives. Yes, the bitter truth is that even in the 21st century, people fear loneliness and what others will think of them if they don’t have a serious relationship or if they are still single at a certain age.
Yet, there is no reason to feel bad because you haven’t found the right partner for you. The fact is that starting a relationship with the idea of being like everyone else or because of your friends who are married or in serious relationships is totally wrong. The best thing to do if you haven’t found the right kind of partner is to use your time to get to know yourself better. That would be the perfect moment to see who you really are and what you want.
You should also realize that being with someone only because he or she is interested in you while you actually don’t have anything in common is a waste of time.
What we all need is a suitable partner who is worth our feelings and time. Someone who is not only a companion or a buddy or a person who just finds us attractive. True love means much more than that. A person who wants to be with you will always put you first and see you in their future. That’s why they will expect the same from you. Moreover, he or she will respect both you and your loved ones and will be happy to spend time with your friends or family members.
So, please don’t start a relationship with someone who doesn’t take you seriously. You’re better off alone until you meet the man or woman who will treat you the way you deserve. That special someone who finds you more important than everyone and everything. A partner who is interested to learn more about who you are. A significant other who wants to listen to you and know more and more about you every day.
“The first step towards love is to listen to your love.”, he says.
So, here are some simple questions that I think are worth asking yourself when you doubt your choice of being single instead of spending your life with a person who is not truly interested in you.
- Do you need a partner who doesn’t know the real you?
- Do you want to be with someone who only sees their own projection of who you are?
- Do you think you have a future with such a person?
- How far can you get in life with someone who is not interested in knowing your true colors?
And that’s not all!
All those things that you expect from your partner – you should also be able to give to them. Remember – the right person is the one who doesn’t need to convince you that they deserve to be with you.
Actually, you simply cannot think of spending more than a couple of days without hearing from them. So, If you both don’t miss each other when you spend long periods of time separated then sadly this is a red flag. On top of that, if your partner or even you don’t feel genuinely interested in and concerned with what the other person is going through or how they feel, then probably you should think about ending this relationship and becoming single again.
As sad as it may sound this person is not in love with you. And maybe you aren’t in love with them either.
Here’s why the right thing to do is to stay single until you find the one who makes you happy and supports you about everything that you do.
Wait until you meet that special someone who has proved to you that they really care. Choose a partner who wants to be with you, not only now, but in the future as well. Be with someone whose feelings and plans are not something they would only talk about. Find the one whose actions show that they think about you and want to be with you every single day.
And as Justin Timberlake puts it:
“True love, to me, is when she’s the first thought that goes through your head when you wake up and the last thought that goes through your head before you go to sleep”
I totally agree with him, and that’s what I am looking for in a relationship. So until I find this special someone I will stay single. I truly believe that it’s better to be alone than with someone who doesn’t know what true love is.
Please, tell me if you share my opinion in the comments below.