“There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness.”
– Friedrich Nietzsche
When we are young we are obsessed with romantic movies and our picture of true love is a boy and a girl falling in love at first sight.
We’ve all seen the scene of two lost souls bumping into each other and when she drops her papers he helps her pick them up while they gaze into each others’ eyes. Time seizes to exist and that is the magical moment they realize they’re the ones they’ve been longing for all long.
Nothing else matters from that moment on. Sure, they go through many problems together. It takes time before they end up as a couple. But eventually, they get to live happily ever after.
And they do so because they are soulmates.
Two people who were destined to be together. But the truth is, it’s silly to be stuck to the idea of that kind of love.
How many of us have been able to live that dream in reality? The answer is, not many.
Firstly, soulmates are overrated and nobody can say with full certainty that they even exist.
As we get older, we start to understand that the whole notion is just a media fabrication – that soulmates are made up by someone who came up with the idea because we naturally want to believe that there’s a fairytale quality to life.
So, let us set fairytales aside for a bit and return to real life.
Do you know what the most important things in a lasting relationship are? The answer is dedication, effort, compatibility, and a whole lot of compromises made on both sides.
Furthermore, these are all things you must work hard on.
In order for a relationship to succeed, it isn’t enough to have butterflies in your belly.
Chemistry is important but it is not vital enough to sustain a long-term relationship.
True love must be fought for. We must fight the everyday battles that at first glance seem unimportant, yet in truth matter most.
This includes making compromises when your differences clash, splitting housework, and when it comes to things concerning your children and finances.
Because a lot of work goes into making a relationship strong, and it won’t be perfect just because you believe destiny said so.
And guess what? The happily ever after might not even become a reality…
Because the struggle for maintaining love and balance will always go on. You will fall and you will get back up on your feet, but thankfully this will make your bond stronger.
It is a struggle that lasts a lifetime. And only when you go through all this will you get to know that what truly matters is finding your forever person, and not your soulmate.
Do you believe in soulmates?
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