Narcissist: a more polite term for a self-serving, manipulative, evil jerk with no soul and no compassion
That definition may sound brutal but it’s the bitter truth. When it comes to narcissists that’s what they are in a nutshell. People who have no moral boundaries and won’t blink an eye when they lie and manipulate.
And the worst of all is that while some of them could be easily noticed, others, can’t be recognized unless you’ve met them before because they usually hide their true colors.
In the beginning, narcissists are so charming. They are nice, well-mannered, have a sense of humor and pretend to be loving and caring. And by the time you realize all of that is just an illusion, they have manipulated you, used you and moved on from your relationship.
That’s why it is important to spot them and cut them out of your life on time.
To help you do that below we’ve outlined 10 unmistakable signs that reveal someone has a narcissistic personality.
1. Sense of superiority
Narcissists feel superior and want to dominate over others. That’s why they fear and envy everyone who could possibly outshine them. They are so obsessed with the desire to be the best that they see everyone as their opponent.
So, if you notice that your friend or family member is always talking about or showing through their actions that they feel superior to other people, the chances are her or she is a narcissist.
2. Fake confidence
If you notice that someone tries to maintain high self-esteem but at the same time needs constant reassurance of their worth by others, it’s highly probable that you are dealing with a narcissist. The truth is that deep inside themselves, the narcissists are insecure and fragile.
3. Fake empathy
These people lack compassion and are unable to understand how others feel. They are always focused on their own happiness and would sacrifice anything and anyone to achieve it. Yet they might try to act as if they care for your problems, so pay attention to whether or not the person that might be a narcissist really shows compassion or it’s all just vain talk.
4. Crave Perfection
In the beginning, they won’t tell it to you. But, as time goes by, you will notice that narcissists want others to be as good as they consider themselves to be which means perfect. Yet, if someone is better the narcissist will feel threatened and try to undermine the accomplishments of the person who outshines them.
5. Lack of responsibility
Narcissists cannot admit their fault nor can they take any responsibility for causing harm to other people. It’s always someone else to blame. After all, a person who thinks they are perfect cannot be wrong.
So if you notice a friend or a family member who never admits their mistakes and always puts the blame for their negative actions on someone else, it’s a red flag!
Vindictiveness is a strong desire to get back at someone. Individuals who want revenge are full of vindictiveness. Sadly, almost all narcissists fall into that group. If someone offends them or hurts their feelings the narcissist will find a way to take revenge on them. This trait of the narcissist’s character is not so obvious and it might take some time before you notice it.
7. Prone to addiction
8. They think they deserve success
Working hard to fulfill your dreams and being proud of your success means you are ambitious. But living with the idea that you deserve success because you think you are superior to others is narcissism. If you meet such a person stay away because he or she will most probably try to manipulate and use you to achieve their goals.
When someone is sarcastic they want to make others feel less worthy by indirectly offending them. Joking with your friends and laughing together could be fun, but when the jokes are rude and undermine the other person they can lead to serious negative consequences.
Sadly, one of the most common tactics of narcissists to manipulate, control and feel superior to others is to tell sarcastic comments and jokes. And if you complain, then you lack a sense of humor. It doesn’t matter that those jokes were said with the idea to hurt you and make you doubt your worth.
Gaslighting is an efficient way to make anyone doubt their self-esteem and the worth of their judgments. The point is to start trusting the abusive narcissist who has managed to convince the other person that he or she is not capable of making reasonable decisions.
Unfortunately, these are only a few out of many tactics and behaviors that reveal someone has a narcissistic personality.
So if you find yourself involved with a person who exhibits most of or all of these traits and uses sarcasm and gaslighting to control and manipulate you, you’d better cut the cord with them right away because you are most probably dealing with someone who suffers from a narcissistic personality disorder.
Remember, staying in an abusive relationship is extremely dangerous as it could ruin your self-esteem. And you don’t need that, no-one does.
“With emotional abuse, the insults, insinuations, criticism, and accusations slowly eat away at the victim’s self-esteem until he or she is incapable of judging a situation realistically. He or she may begin to believe that there is something wrong with them or even fear they are losing their mind. They have become so beaten down emotionally that they blame themselves for the abuse.”