“People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh
Are you in love with your partner? Do you feel happy?
If your answer to both of those questions is no, staying in such a relationship is the wrong decision for you, your partner, and even for the children.
1. You only have this one life
Wasting precious time by pitying yourself but not doing anything to change is something that may one day cost you dearly. Change is never easy, but it is what life is all about. Stepping outside your comfort zone to find what you truly want out of life and a relationship can be immensely rewarding.
2. Attachment does not equate love
Being attached is one of the main reasons why it’s so hard to leave an unhappy relationship. But if someone is treating you badly, take a step back and ask yourself: is it really worth it? It’s not easy to leave someone you are attached to. But once you’re able to let go, you will realize that it is possible to continue your life and it’ll be a lot easier if you don’t have something (or someone) to constantly worry about.
3. Being alone for a while is better than being unhappy
As much as you fear being alone, staying with a person who doesn’t make you happy is much worse. You can eventually adjust to life without him or her, but you’ll never find happiness in a dead relationship. In addition, you’ll learn a lot about yourself by taking a little time off, and at some point, you’ll find the right person for you.
4. The pain of leaving will fade away
There is no doubt that leaving will be a painful adjustment for you, but the hurt will without a doubt be temporary in comparison to the lingering agony of staying. Going through some painful discomfort to acquire happiness will be the best gift you can possibly give to yourself.
5. For the sake of the children? (if you have any)
By staying with your spouse for the sake of the children, you will effectively be teaching them that marriage is about being miserable and disliking your partner. This will also teach them how to live separate lives while being married.
The alternative to this will be (if you cannot fix your marriage or respectfully divorce) to just go with the flow and accept your unhappiness as a fact of your life.
Are there any valid reasons to stay in an unhappy relationship in your opinion?
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