Do you have a real friend?
Is there a person in your life who holds your hand through the storm and sticks by you even when you struggle? If there is, then you can consider yourself blessed.
Unfortunately, there are many times in life where we feel powerless. In times of struggle, we need someone to be there for us and help us handle the challenges. Maybe not everyone feels confident admitting they need help. But the truth is that we are all a little lost sometimes. Having a friend to guide us in such suffocating moments is definitely not something to be ashamed of.
It is a real blessing to know there is someone out there you can genuinely count on.
Surely, many of us are strong enough to deal with the hardships on our own. We have the strength within us to handle our problems with courage and determination. However, when we feel like our lives are falling apart, and nothing seems to go right, we need someone just to be there. We need a friend to either tell us things are going to be okay or be brutally honest with us and straightforwardly tell us what we did wrong.
When we feel dazed and confused, and we don’t seem to see the end of the tunnel, we need someone to help us face our troubles. Sadly, there are many fake friends that would simply say: “Just get over it and move on.” They would rather keep a safe distance until we’re happy and thriving again because we are no fun to be around when we’re feeling down. Instead of supporting us while we struggle, they prefer to ignore us until we become the bubbly, chatty, joyful person we usually are.
What they don’t have the decency to consider is that you are a human being with complex feelings. You can’t simply turn your emotions on and off whenever you please. There is not a magical word powerful enough to repair your broken heart within seconds. And when your emotional trauma is met with indifference from someone you deeply care for, it’s enough to burden you with trust issues for the rest of your life.
If your “friends” avoid you when you need them the most, are they really your friends?
(n.) a person known well to another and regarded with liking and affection; a person whom one knows and trusts
There is something beautiful about those moments when you feel lost and helpless. They help you clearly see who is unconditionally there for you and who is by your side when they can benefit from your kindness. This painful realization is much needed when you are not fully sure whom you can vent to.
Only the real ones will be there for you through the storm and when the air gets clear with the same devotion and tenderness. Only the ones who truly care for you will thrive when you thrive, cry when you cry, and remind you who you are when you forget it. If you have a friend who would do all that for you, and you would do the same for them, then you have something truly special. You have a friendship built on trust, support, and respect, and it’s a friendship you must appreciate.
So, do you have a real friend?
Is there someone who holds your hand when anxiety tries to take over your fragile mind? Can you trust someone with all of your secrets? Do you have someone in your life who stands by your side even in your darkest hours?
Real friends accept us for who we are. They don’t force us to change. They don’t judge our decisions. What’s more, they definitely don’t make us feel bad about ourselves. It’s actually quite the opposite.
Real friends encourage us to move forward. They support our ambitions and share our dreams. They lift us up and inspire us to keep going when we feel like giving up. What’s even more amazing is that they are always honest with us and give us a reality check when we need it the most.
If you have a real friend by your side, share this article to let them know how much they mean to you!