Some people are honest to the point they would always tell about their intimate emotions to others.
First of all, you need to be careful and make sure that the details of your personal life can’t be used to harm you. It’s helpful to have a basic list of some private matters you should not tell others. If you find it difficult to make your list, this article might come in useful.
We’ve listed eight personal matters you should always try to keep to yourself.
Nevertheless, if you can’t, you could at least try not to talk about them that often. Or certainly, try not share them with random people.
1. Your secrets and unpleasant facts you know about other people.
First and foremost, talking or gossiping about others makes you look bad in the eyes of society (or at least in the eyes of those who don’t like sticking their noses in other people’s business). What is more, this way you show to the world that you don’t feel confident. And probably you are trying to acknowledge yourself by undermining someone else’s value. On the top of that, giving negative information goes along with a lot of negative energy that could have a bad influence on you or the people you are talking to. Therefore, it’s wiser to keep such details to yourself as they won’t have a positive effect on anyone.
2. Your property
Some people would very often brag about material things. Usually, they would share information ( with everyone) about their house, car, clothes, powerful friends and whatever else you can think of that money can buy. Certainly, such behavior shows nothing but low self-esteem. In fact, people who keep on sharing information about their materialistic possessions have significant flaws in their personality. They try to show strength and seek attention by displaying the materialistic things they own, their connections and other superficial possessions. However, this can make them look too obsessed with the material cost of something. And eventually to the world, they are only one of those shallow individuals who would appreciate material possessions and power over anything else.
3. How much you earn
Certainly, your income is something that you should keep to yourself. Money seems to be an unpleasant topic to discuss in front of other people. After all, you never know what anyone’s financial situation is. On the top of that, if someone is always talking about their financial prosperity, you are probably dealing with a depressed and very insecure person. Someone who needs attention and constant approval. A person who has no other interests but money.
4. Your aims for the future
Being proud of your achievements is OK. Being satisfied with yourself and your successes is fine. Actually, you might think this strange, but there are scientific proofs that it is much more possible to achieve your long-term goals if you keep them to yourself. Studies prove that sharing goals with others can reduce the possibility that we’ll have them come true. When we say about our plans to others we get the feeling that we’ve already fulfilled them; it tricks the brain into believing we’ve achieved something we haven’t. We subconsciously think that we are on the verge of completing a goal, which is not true. This fake feeling of effort then reduces our impulse to start working towards success.
5. If you do good things about others.
Today we read or watch about people who’ve done great things, helped a lot of people (which is beautiful). However, many of these Good Samaritans always find a way to tell the world about their good deeds. Some even try to mask the fact they are bragging about this by telling the story of the sick/poor person they’ve helped. However, good deeds could be thought of as valuable only if they remain untold. So, if you are continually sharing how generous or tolerant you are, you might not be that good of a person.
6. Your beliefs and preferences
Some people are religious, others are keen on sports and others – practice different types of meditation. It’s not that we shouldn’t talk about it, but very often people go as far as trying to impose their beliefs on others. If you do this, you might well turn into one of those intolerant people who only view the world from their perspective. And hardly anyone listens to them or becomes friends with them.
7. How brave you are.
Smart people know that a real hero never shares their heroic acts. They do what they have to do not so others would know about it, but because they are kind, compassionate and courageous deep inside their souls. They believe in their cause, and they don’t need to be acknowledged by anyone. Most heroic acts are recognized when others admire them. So, if you consider yourself a real hero, you should leave the others to praise you for your actions and not tell everybody about how brave and kind person you are.
8. Family issues
Every family has problems, and those affected don’t benefit from strangers understanding such intimate facts. Your family members may be ashamed or feel uncomfortable, only because you believe you’d feel better if you tell the whole world about your family issues. More negativity won’t improve your circumstances. Let confidential information stay private. There is a difference between asking for help and gossiping. Sharing with your therapist or friend what’s going on as to receive advice and understanding is necessary. Giving distributing information which could be used to slander is not OK.
Eventually, what we should learn is how to be honest and not over-sharers.
Positive thinking is crucial about this. Try telling the truth, however, don’t forget that there are things that should remain private. And don’t forget that even your closest friends might sometimes get tired of listening to your most intimate secrets.
Have you ever been in the company of an over-sharer? Please, share your experience.
