8 Things People DON’T Do In A Healthy Relationship
A healthy, loving relationship can enhance many aspects of your life, from your emotional and mental well-being to your physical health and overall happiness.
It requires certain skills and lot of time to develop and maintain a healthy relationship and it’s never too late to start working on it. No matter even if you had a bad relationship in your past, you can still make a better relationship by taking these points into consideration. Achieving a healthy relationship requires positive contributions from both partners.
Here are few things that couples don’t do in a healthy relationship.
1) They Don’t Rush For A Better Future:
People who are in a healthy relationship enjoy the present. They don’t rush for a better relationship. They live in the present and will love their partner for who they are, not for what they want them to be. They believe the concept ‘Right now is life… don’t miss it!’ They don’t rush the present state of their relationships to get to better times ahead, instead they live their lives. They accept that the relationship will develop in the right way and they would never try to make their relationship progress faster.
In Healthy relationships, the partners never stop communicating with each other. Whether in the good times or the bad, in every phase of life. To maintain a healthy relationship you need to know your partner genuinely and have to let them know you. For this to happen open communication is a must.
3) They Don’t Keep Secrets:
Hiding something from your partner is something that people don’t do in a healthy relationship. Successful couples don’t keep secrets and this quality allows them to gain their partner’s trust, which is a must for a healthy, happy relationship. Being honest is the only way to be at peace with yourself and others.
4) They don’t stop loving themselves:
You can’t love someone when you can’t love yourself first. Couples in a happy relationship will love themselves first, so they can love their partner too. Loving yourself will help the relationship to succeed.
5) Don’t Expect Relationships to Solve Your Problems:
People can’t expect their relationship to solve their personal problems and they shouldn’t believe that their partner will complete them. They will solve their problems and would complete themselves, instead of expecting their partners to do it.
6) They Don’t Fake Their Feelings & Don’t Hide Who They Are:
Being real is being loving. There’s nothing better for your happiness and your relationships than for you to be at your best. Don’t hide your true self from others and especially your partner. People who are in healthy relationships.
7) They Don’t Bring Up The Past:
People who are in a healthy relationship, won’t bring up the past to win an argument or use it as relationship collateral. ”Let go of your past to embrace happiness of present life” will be their motto. They don’t focus on the unchangeable past and will never bring up any incidents from their past to justify the present.
8) They Don’t Take Their Relationships For Granted:
People who are in a healthy relationship never take their partner or relationship for granted. They will thank their partner for everything and will be showing their gratitude for everything that their partner does for them. They would never stop showing their concern, love and affection towards their partner because they know that a lack of concern hurts more than angry words.
Research from the University of Washington Says In an Unhealthy Relationship You Will:
*Put one person before the other by neglecting yourself or your partner
*Feel pressure to change who you are for the other person
*Feel worried when you disagree with the other person
*Feel pressure to quit activities you usually/used to enjoy
*Pressure the other person into agreeing with you or changing to suit you better
*Notice one of you has to justify your actions (e.g., where you go, who you see)
*Notice one partner feels obligated to have sex or has been forced
*Have a lack of privacy, and may be forced to share everything with the other person
*You or your partner refuse to use safer sex methods
*Notice arguments are not settled fairly
*Experience yelling or physical violence during an argument