How To Tell Your Partner Is An Emotional Psychopath
What psychopathy really is
According to the definition provided by Henry R. Hermann Ph.D., in Dominance and Aggression in Humans and Other Animals, 2017
Psychopathy is defined as a mental (antisocial) disorder in which an individual manifests amoral and antisocial behaviour, shows a lack of ability to love or establish meaningful personal relationships, expresses extreme egocentricity, and demonstrates a failure to learn from experience and other behaviours associated with the condition.
In other words, a psychopath is someone who’s not capable of maintaining a normal, healthy, humane relationship due to a disorder. Emotional psychopaths, specifically, are these people who suffer from a form of psychopathy that involves mimicking emotions, which they just cannot feel.
Being in a relationship with an emotional psychopath is an extremely unpleasant experience. They are very good manipulators, as their actions tend to impose emotional control over you. However, emotional psychopaths’ behavior isn’t gross all the time. On the contrary, they can be very charming and empathic. One time they talk and act as if they’re spoiling for a fight, the next time they’re gently whispering to you, “Honney, I don’t want to fight with you about this. I know how difficult it is for you to stop being such an emotional person.”
See what they did there? Instead of concentrating on the issue, they made you feel as if it was all your fault. That’s manipulation in its purest form. That’s why you should be aware of the tactics this kind of manipulators uses. This way you’ll be able to reveal that they’re actually manipulating you and break free from their influence.
You can check out these signs which reveal that you’re actually having a relationship with an emotional psychopath.
They want to change your point of view
Emotional manipulators try to change your perspective on life and influence your opinion so that you start thinking and behaving in a way that suits their needs. This is one of the oldest manipulation techniques that exist. Don’t let anyone take control over you in this way
They are dominant
Psychopaths try to demonstrate their power by dominating the relationship. They make you feel down by trying to outstand you. Such people might discredit you in front of others so that they feel better about themselves.
They Humiliate You in Public
Your loved one should support and encourage you. But that won’t be the case if you have a relationship with a psychopath. If for instance your significant other is always putting you down, especially in front of others, it means two things. They want to make you lose your self-confidence and they are most probably an emotional psychopath. Most often than not such a person would try to humiliate you in front of your closest people in order to show you and them how insignificant you are.
They try to isolate you
One of their meanest techniques of manipulation is trying to isolate you from your friends and family. They might even go as far as not letting you see your closest ones because they feel jealous of them or they don’t like them. This kind of manipulators might also turn you against the people who you love the most – your family and friends. They would do that because they want to be your only friend and this way have better control over you.
They blame you
Emotional psychopaths always blame others for their own sins and would never admit they are wrong. Even if they cheat, they would say you’re the one who’s guilty about that because you have provoked them. All the bad decisions they take are also considered someone else’s fault. They would blame you and everyone else for their negative feelings. Or say you involved them in a nasty situation which they’d actually created themselves.
Sadly, a lot of people might hurt us when we become closer to them. But despite that, we shouldn’t fear to love and to build strong relationships with others. What we should know, however, is how to distinguish abusive behaviour and how to set healthy emotional boundaries with other people, especially individuals who suffer from personality disorders.