How To Tell Your Partner Is An Emotional Psychopath
What psychopathy really is
According to the definition provided by Henry R. Hermann Ph.D., in Dominance and Aggression in Humans and Other Animals, 2017
Psychopathy is defined as a mental (antisocial) disorder in which an individual manifests amoral and antisocial behaviour, shows a lack of ability to love or establish meaningful personal relationships, expresses extreme egocentricity, and demonstrates a failure to learn from experience and other behaviours associated with the condition.
In other words, a psychopath is someone who’s not capable of maintaining a normal, healthy, humane relationship due to a disorder. Emotional psychopaths, specifically, are these people who suffer from a form of psychopathy that involves mimicking emotions, which they just cannot feel.
Being in a relationship with an emotional psychopath is an extremely unpleasant experience. They are very good manipulators, whose actions tend to impose emotional control over you. However, emotional psychopaths’ behaviour isn’t gross all the time. On the contrary, they can be very charming and empathic. One time they talk and act as if they’re spoiling for a fight, the next time they’re gently whispering to you, “Honney, I don’t want to fight with you about this. I know how difficult it is for you to stop being such an emotional person.”
See what they did there? Instead of concentrating on the issue, they made you feel as if it was all your fault. That’s a manipulation in its purest form. That’s why you should be aware of the tactics manipulators use. This way you could reveal that they’re actually one more easily and break free.
You can check these signs which could reveal that you’re actually having a relationship with an emotional psychopath.
They want to change your point of view
Emotional manipulators could try to change your perspective on life and influence you so that you start thinking and behaving in a way that suits their needs. This is one of the oldest manipulation techniques that exist. Don’t let anyone take control over you in this way
They are dominant
Psychopaths try to demonstrate their power and to dominate in the relationship. They put you down by trying to outstand you. Such people might discredit you in front of other people so that they can feel better about themselves.
They Humiliate You in Public
Your loved one should support and encourage you. If they are always putting you down in front of others, it means they don’t care how you feel. On the top of that, they might try humiliating you in front of your closest people in order to stand out and feel better about themselves.
They try to isolate you
One of their meanest techniques of manipulation is when your partner is trying to isolate you from your friends and family. They might not let you see your close ones because they feel jealous or they don’t like them. They try to turn you against the people who you love the most. This way they could become your only friend and control you more easily.
They blame you
Emotional psychopaths always blame others for their own sins. They would never admit their own fault no matter what. Even if they cheat, they would say you’re guilty because you provoked them. All bad decisions they take are thought to be your fault. They could blame you for their negative feelings or say you involved them in a controversial situation which they’d actually created.
Sadly, a lot of people might hurt us if we become closer to them. But despite that, we shouldn’t fear to love and to build strong relationships with others. What we should know, however, is how to distinguish abusive behaviour and how to set healthy emotional boundaries between us and our loved ones.