Outraged mother whose ex dropped off the wrong baby at her house wants to change custody agreement
A mother is questioning whether or not she should change her custody agreement after her ex dropped off the wrong child.
The woman shared her story on Reddit’s AITA (Am I The A**hole) section and asked people whether she should change the custody agreement between her and her ex, Sean. She explained that she and Sean have a complex history as her ex had gotten her and another woman (Lydia) pregnant at the same time. The current custody agreements of both women state that Sean has a week on/week off with the two children so that he can take time to rest and so that the children can form a bond.
So this guy, “Sean”, and I have a… complex… history, but the important part of that history is that Sean got me and another woman, “Lydia”, pregnant at roughly the same time. Our sons are only about 6 weeks apart in age. Lydia’s son is currently just over 15 months, while mine is just under 17 months. Lydia and I have identical custody agreements. We both had sole custody for the entire first year, with Sean only having visitation, and when both boys were a year old, it became 50/50 custody. Both myself and Lydia have our sons for the odd weeks, while Sean gets the even weeks. This means Sean has both boys at the same time. He pushed for this, as he wanted a week on/week off from looking after kids. He also requested this so his sons could bond, but his primary motive was getting time off.
After her ex dropped off the wrong child, the original poster is now furious and wondering what to do.
The woman explained that after taking care of the children this week, Sean had dropped off her child. At the time, she had been on a work call and the child had been asleep. Ten minutes later, the baby had woken up and started crying. Hearing her son cry, the original poster had hurried to pick him up. It was then that she realized that the child was Lydia’s and not hers.
Sean had both boys this last week. He brought my son back earlier today. I was on a work call and the baby was sleeping, so Sean just sort of placed the baby, carrier and all, down on the floor and left silently. When the baby woke up and started crying, I got off the work call and immediately noticed that this was not my son, as my son has blue eyes, and this baby had green eyes. Taking off the baby’s hat also showed dark blond hair, and not my son’s light brown hair. I immediately called Sean, in full panic mode, telling him to bring me the correct child right this second. It had only been about 10 minutes so Sean wasn’t far away and hadn’t gone by Lydia’s yet, but Jesus fucking Christ it was the worst 10 minutes of my life. Sean came back smiling, carrying my son, and says in the most condescending tone of voice “see? He’s fine. No harm done.”
Should she change her custody agreement?
After experiencing what she called ‘the worst 10 minutes of [her] life’, the mother now wants to change the custody agreement. Nevertheless, Sean had apologized and explained that it was an honest mistake and that nobody had been hurt. For this reason, she shared her story on Reddit to ask whether or not she was overreacting and if she should actually consider changing the custody agreement.
I told him that we are fixing this custody agreement. He is not having both boys alone again. He couldn’t tell his own sons apart, so the solution here is for him to not be in a position to confuse them. I feel that this whole situation is already a total fucking farce, and I should never have been in that position. I want to know that I have my child, not Lydia’s. I do not feel that this is a lot to ask for. Sean has said that I’m being unreasonable. […] He also says that I’ll be causing undue harm to all 3 guys in this situation, as the kids won’t get to bond with their half brother, and Sean won’t get any time to himself if he has Lydia’s son on even weeks and mine on odds, meaning that he’ll be more exhausted and it will decrease his income as he won’t be able to work overtime (which he currently does in his weeks without the boys).
According to the majority of Reddit users, the original poster was overreacting and she should not change the custody agreement.
They explained that Sean’s mistake was understandable and that this will not be an issue as the children grow older. Moreover, they said that the original poster would seriously be harming the relationship of the two siblings if she was to take the child away due to a single error. While some mothers understand the fear and anxiety which she must have experienced, they note that it is not a valid reason to make such a life-changing decision.
What do you think?