Happiness is not something you have to search for, it is a choice you make.
Many people sit around, complain, and wait for happiness to find them. They blame their jobs, their friends, their families, and everything else around them for their unhappiness. However, what they do not realize is that you could have the lowest-paying job, little to no friends, a difficult family, and yet still be happy. The reason for this is that happiness is found within us and thus, it is a conscious choice that we make. Those who are always negative and unhappy tend to believe that if their job or the place they live in was to change, they would undoubtedly find happiness. Unfortunately, time and time again, they face the fact that the external factors in life cannot make them happy if they are not happy within.
Do not give up on your happiness.
Often, after trying to change external factors and finding that they do not become happier, some may lose hope; that is, they give up on their happiness. If you identify with this, then you are essentially standing in the way of your happiness. There are several things you should ask yourself to find out if you are the one making yourself unhappy:
- Do you only focus on the negative aspects of your life?
- Do you give your energy and react strongly to things that do not deserve your time and effort?
- Do you accept your flaws (and those of your closest friends and family)?
- Do you show gratitude for the things and people in your life?
You are the only one who can make you happy.
Your happiness is in your hands. If you find that you are constantly focusing on the negative, this means that you are not letting yourself see the good things in your life. In addition to this, reacting strongly and passionately every time something upsets you only drains you. You need to learn how to let things go and find out what is worth your time, effort, and energy. Thus, in order to be happy, one needs to change the way they think and the way they view the world. To be truly happy, you need to learn to accept yourself and the people in your life for what they are. Be grateful for everything and everyone that you have. Once you realize that you are in charge of your happiness, everything will change.
