“A narcissist paints a picture of themselves as being the victim or innocent in all aspects. They will be offended by the truth. But what is done in the dark will come to light. Time has a way of showing people’s true colors.”
– Karla Grimes
Narcissists are perhaps the worst people to get in an argument with because rather than making an effort to make things right, they close themselves off and put the blame on you.
Instead of taking ownership of their mistakes, he or she will provoke you until you lose your temper and then behave as if you are making a fly out of an elephant.
The worst thing is that narcissists can be charming beyond belief. Even when they’ve betrayed you and made you feel broken, they will put on their charm in order to win you back so they can keep taking advantage of your good nature. They will lift you up just to pull you down again and you will find that being around them can be quite draining.
Such people are masters at what they do and when it comes down to getting into a fight with them not engaging in it would always be the best option.
The more you argue with them the more opportunities you give them to manipulate and control you again.
As the narcissist’s mask slowly comes off you will begin to understand that they must immediately be banished from your life. They will twist the truth at every chance they get and they will never be around when you need them the most. They will repeatedly cause you pain and never properly apologize. And the more you suffer the more energized they will feel. Surely that is not something you want in your life.
They will try to manipulate and play with your mind in every way possible and when you try to make things work between you, they will do the opposite of what you ask them.
Such people do not have a sense of remorse and they will always play the victim when they feel that you’re on to their games.
The more control you let them gain the more unhappy they will make you. They will use gaslighting to make you question your own sense of sanity and fault even though you have good proof that they are the ones to blame. You deserve more in life and the quicker you come to terms with that the better off you’ll be.
Do not feel guilty for having to deal with this person in a way they deserve.
You are the only one in control of your destiny and you must do whatever it takes to fight for your own wellbeing.
The way you responded was not as bad as they made you think it was and accepting the blame for something that was not your fault is the last thing you need. While it won’t be easy to break free from the chains of the narcissist, you are more than capable to do so even you do not believe it.
Remove this toxic person from your life and reclaim your happiness!
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