Have you ever heard the words “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.” during a breakup?
Perhaps this is the sole sentence that has put an end to more relationships than any other.
What these words represent is painful for both partners in the relationship. The meaning of this difficult to say and hear sentence is that the romantic spark is long gone, and there’s nothing left from the passionate bond the lovers once had.
The truth is, strong relationships are not based on the wistful love in the beginning.
Their strength depends on how well you manage to keep the love until the very end. In many relationships, this is the most challenging obstacle. Unfortunately, a lot of them fail to overcome it.
“I think you’re an amazing person, but…”
This three-letter word has destroyed many relationships and has broken millions of hearts. You know which one.
For better or worse, not every relationship is meant to last forever. Sadly, we often can’t tell the difference between when it’s really over, and when we can still fix the damage. But if you wish to commit to a deep, meaningful relationship, you need to understand it.
Otherwise, you might lose someone that might have been the love of your life.
The easiest thing to say is “It’s just not working anymore.” But what if all you have to do is pay a little more attention? What if all you need from your partner is just a little emotional support? Why waste a good thing over pride and carelessness? Calling it quits too soon might lead to regrets for the rest of your life.
One of the most common mistakes in every relationship is having false expectations. You can’t expect that every single day of your life together is going to bring you happiness. You can’t expect to avoid difficulties and let-downs.
After all, you are only human. You make mistakes, you let people down, you fall, you mistreat your loved ones. The important thing is how you handle all of this. Are you willing to put effort into fixing your mistakes? Do you genuinely regret what you’ve done? Do you have the decency to apologize?
“I don’t feel the same anymore.”
Do you have to let go the second you feel like you’ve lost the spark between you two? Unfortunately, oftentimes it’s almost impossible to say whether it’s time to break up, or you can still do something about it.
In reality, relationships require tons of hard work. You have to be willing to give your all if you truly believe that this is your person, that this is the one. And if you know in your heart that this is the one, you are going to move mountains for them. You will swallow all of your pride, and you will keep going no matter what.
However, if you’re not sure this is the right one for you, you might need to step back. After you’ve given your best to keep this relationship going, but there is no positive outcome, the time to call it quits might have finally come.
When the relationship you have becomes one-sided, it’s time to go. And it’s not a matter of giving up, rather than letting go of the high hopes and expectations you once had. It’s allowing yourself to move on and find your true self. Because sometimes, no matter how hard you try, if the relationship is a complete nightmare, you need to get out of it as fast as you can.
Besides, there is always something beautiful in every breakup. Especially when you let go of someone who’s been holding you back from fulfilling your dreams, and who never truly believed in you.
“I’m just trying to do what’s right for me.”
Once you’re free, you can reconnect with yourself and rearrange your priorities. You can finally find the courage to become the person you’ve always wanted to be.
What we can truly be thankful for is that every relationship teaches us many life lessons. It teaches us how to be more responsible, how to make better decisions, how to make compromises, how to truly commit to somebody else, how to be more patient when needed. It shows us that happiness is not something we receive as a prize at the end of a race, but something that we build ourselves.
Long-term relationships go through many different seasons.
The harsh winter is when you realize the love is gone.
When deep down you feel you’ve reached the very end of it, and whatever you do will be pointless. And when you see the pain in your partner’s eyes, you know that the beautiful, powerful bond you once had, is now rotting before you.
The best thing you can both do in such a harsh situation is to let yourselves go. You need to set yourselves free and go on your own separate paths.
What you need to understand is that the end of one relationship isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes it leads to the most amazing realizations in your life. Sometimes that’s exactly what you need to start truly living your life.
