Time goes by and you still haven’t come across that perfect person you wish to grow old with.
Instead, you find yourself dating the most terrible, aggressive, lazy or needy people who have no similar interests or longevity.
It looks like regardless of how hard you try and pray, you just cannot seem to attract the right person into your life.
Don’t worry, you are not alone. Statistics reveal that the average woman goes through four terrible dates and seven different relationships before meeting her life long partner, while men will go through four terrible dates and eight failed relationships before finding the right one.
Finding your other half is not easy, there are billions of people in this world, but in truth, only a few can ignite a spark in us. So where should you begin?
How do you shorten the search and attract the best partner for you?
1. Let go of your past romances
Sadly, many people find it difficult to complete this step. If you are still emotionally connected to your ex by doing things like daydreaming about the moment when they get in touch and ask you to come back to them, this will work as a big soulmate turnoff. A new person won’t enter your life if the old one is still living inside your heart.
This is a good time to think about whether you are trying to find someone who resembles your ex. If it is so, then this is a clear sign that you have to work on letting go of the past so that your future partner can find his or her way into your life.
In the same manner, as you would visualize, for instance, having more financial resources, you can visualize a partner. There is no need to get overly specific in terms of hairstyle, favorite music and so on.
Furthermore, it is wiser to not pay that much attention to little details like that or you may find yourself making an extensive list of characteristics that looks like a grocery list and let’s be real, no one is that perfect, and you are not looking for someone who just looks good on the page, your ultimate goal is love.
So, avoid being overly picky, and concentrate on questions like: What would attract you to them? What would it feel like to spend time with them? What would you two do together?
3. Let go of limiting beliefs
“Men/women are all the same. I am too fat/skinny/old/young for anyone good to be interested in me. True romance exists only in films. It isn’t real.”
Limiting beliefs can be any thoughts that keep you from bringing love to life because they are rooted in thoughts of lack.
In order to attract the right partner, you need to choose your thoughts wisely. Affirm that love is present all around you. When your annoying colleague meets someone, instead of thinking, “How come she has a boyfriend, and I don’t?” tell yourself that this is proof that love is possible. There’s lots of love for all of us, so make sure your thoughts echo the things you say you want.
4. Be yourself
Take a good look at your life and see if you are following the pack or following your heart. If you truly know what you’re looking for in a partner but settle for what you’re told you “should” want, then you will never be happy. The more you can be yourself, the more you will attract partners that are best for you.
5. Your time will come
There is a time for all of us, and yours too will come eventually. You are in no way destined to grow old alone (unless that is what you’ve chosen).
Let go of your urge to immediately find that special someone and allow yourself to go with the flow. It truly comes back to that old saying: “It’ll happen when you least expect it.”
Stop expecting, stop anticipating and see what happens when you allow life to take control. Love will come to you naturally.
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