Having to accept that a close friend does not feel the same way about you is difficult and painful
Having honest, true friends becomes more difficult as we age. There isn’t such a thing as the perfect friendship. Disagreements, fights, tears, and hurt feelings – these are all a natural part of any close and healthy relationship.
However, it is truly painful when a person that you took as a close friend does not feel the same way about you.
Five years ago, I befriended a person who I instantly connected with. It felt as though we were soulmates. We worked at the same place and we always helped each other out in difficult times. There was no rivalry between us.
Well, that didn’t last long.
At some pointed people started talking that she was getting a promotion. I remember asking myself why she didn’t mention this to me. In addition, she started ignoring me while spending more time with her other friends.
The worst part came when I discovered that she was about to attend a work event that both of us had originally intended to go together with another one of my co-workers.
Needless to say, I could no longer avoid the reality. I had to come to terms with the fact that she chose others before me.
She did not care for our friendship the way I did.
I wasn’t on top of her priorities, even if that’s what she was to me.
She did not see me in the same light as I was seeing her.
I’ve spent a huge amount of time asking myself why and when this friendship went down the drain. But I could not come up with a meaningful answer.
However, eventually, I had to accept reality. For my own well-being, I chose to accept that she simply got tired of me.
I understand that sometimes the ones we consider to be the closest to us actually don’t feel the same way. Sometimes, for reasons we never get to know, they don’t or stop feeling the same way about us.
And it’s pointless to run after those people. It is pointless to beg for their time, attention and love.
Yes, this friendship did not work out the way I hoped, but I will never let this experience get to me and determine how I feel about who I am. The truth is that maybe we were never meant to be best friends and that’s alright.
Have you ever fallen out with a person you thought was a close friend?
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