Date yourself! It’s wonderful! Here’s why you need to start loving your gorgeous self.
Repeat after me: Self-love is not selfish! Enjoying your own company is not lonely! Spoiling yourself is not narcissistic!
Love comes in many forms and shapes. We’ve been living in this world for thousands of years, and yet there is no right definition for this magical feeling. But one thing is absolutely sure – you cannot truly love another person, or expect them to love you if you don’t love yourself first.
Let’s clear something out. A lot of people still associate spending time alone with being lonely. I’m not lonely when I enjoy a cup of hot coffee in my favorite coffee shop all by myself. I’m peaceful! The moment of being all by yourself, with your own thoughts, staring at the sky, or reading a book is priceless. Because at that moment, the most important thing is you. You and your own wellbeing, your own mindfulness, and your own happiness.
So, take yourself on dates. Yes, even on Valentine’s Day. You absolutely deserve it!
After all, you know yourself better than anyone else. You know how you love to spend your free time, you know what kind of places you like to visit, and you know what sparks joy in you. Then, why don’t you just do it in your own company? Have brunch at a nice restaurant, go on a shopping spree, go to a concert of your favorite band, go on a vacation. It is neither awkward nor weird to do all these things alone. Because you’re doing them for the sake of your own wellbeing, and that’s wonderful!
Unfortunately, there are still people who fail to realize how lovely it is to be your own companion, friend, and date from time to time. So yes, there might be strange looks when other people see you enjoying yourself. But trust me, they are only jealous they still haven’t experienced the happiness of spending quality time alone.
The most important thing is to be good to yourself. In other words, this means you need to be treating yourself with the same kindness and support you would show to a dear friend. Self-compassion needs to be fueled with lots of tenderness and care.
And if you’re still searching for motivation to start loving yourself, here it is:
By practicing self-love, you’ll drastically lower your stress levels, you’ll decrease your anxiety, and you will be much stronger in the face of depression. What’s more, once you start doing the things you enjoy, not being dependent on someone else, you will feel liberated, and you will be at peace with yourself.
Choosing yourself will be extremely beneficial for both your emotional and physical health. Once you realize how amazing taking care of yourself actually is, your mind, your heart, and your soul will gracefully blossom. The small details that you call imperfections will make you look unique.
Accept yourself as you are, and embrace all the little things that make you different. Fall in love with the things that make you… YOU. Choose YOU. Be kind to yourself. Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how big or small they are. Be grateful for all the effort you put into achieving your goals. Take care of all the beautiful curves of your body, and nourish all parts of your authentic soul. Be patient with yourself, and don’t stress over what you cannot control. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and move forward.
Here’s another thing you must do, to learn how to love yourself: Let go of drama, toxic relationships, and negativity.
Self-love is all about spending valuable time with yourself, and understanding what’s good for you and what holds you back. And if that’s a person, who dims your light, let them go too. In order to grow, you need to leave everything that blocks your growth behind. Your future self will thank you for your bravery and your devotion to yourself. By letting go of toxicity, you will make space for the things that make your soul shine, and you will be able to reconnect with yourself.
Once you get out of your comfort zone and become comfortable with the idea of doing things alone, you will definitely thank yourself for making this important step. You will be able to strengthen the connection you have with yourself and take better care of your wellbeing. And most importantly, by learning the art of self-love, you will become more caring, empathetic, and compassionate to your friends, your family, and your partner. Loving yourself will teach you how to love people around you.
So, really, go out and take your gorgeous self on a date!
Have a glass of fine wine, and think about all the things that make your life incredible. Enjoy this sense of mindfulness and freedom. Become the love you’ve been searching for this whole time. Everything else will fall in line.