Don’t try to be beautiful like them. Be beautiful like you
There is so much pressure for each of us to conform to society’s standards of beauty.
Those standards tell you what to wear, what to eat, how to look, what to weigh – even what to think. This pressure from outside sources can be loud, but the pressure we put on ourselves, the pressure to conform that comes from within, can be deafening.
But at some point, we need to block out that pressure that comes from the outside and the judgements that we place on ourselves. Once we can do that, we can start to be the truly beautiful people we are.
Don’t try to be beautiful like them. Instead, be beautiful like you.
All beauty begins as inner beauty. I’m sure you’ve met someone in your life who had a beautiful appearance but was cruel and ugly on the inside. It probably turned you off of having anything to do with them, right? No amount of makeup or trips to the gym can cover up this kind of ugliness. You aren’t beautiful if you’re ugly on the inside.
Think of your beauty as a house. A well manicured lawn can increase curb appeal and a fresh coat of paint can liven things up, but the foundation of this home is your inner beauty. If the foundation is crumbling, it doesn’t matter if the grass is green and the roof is new. The home will eventually collapse.
Keeping that surface appearance up while neglecting your inner self may make other people like you more, but you don’t need the acceptance of others.
What’s truly important here is that you have the acceptance of yourself. Once you can accept yourself, you can begin to be beautiful like you are. You can comfortably lean into your hobbies, your passions, and what it is that makes you tick. You can start to live more fully, to be the person you want to be. It’s a beautiful thing! And once you’ve begun to let yourself be beautiful like you, you’ll find you start attracting more people who are the same way.
And those people you attract will be more beautiful than any Instagram influencer or celebrity cashing in on their looks. There will be a side of them that only you can see, and they will be able to see that side of you too. It’s a magical thing when it happens.
Loving yourself is truly a gift and a beautiful thing.
If you can’t love yourself for who you are, you can’t expect to be able to love anyone else.
I know it’s a little bit cliche to say it, but it’s true. If you can’t love yourself, you can’t expect to be able to love anyone else. Learning to be beautiful like you truly is the foundation to a happy, loving, successful life filled with amazing people and a truly special lover. The way things start to change when you’ve learned to be beautiful like you truly is profound. It seems like everything else falls into place.
There may be some people who don’t like the way you’re changing for yourself, but ultimately, those who matter won’t mind.
There may be people in this world who look at you, living your life fully, beautifully, and for yourself, and their reaction is to sneer.
They might judge you, talk trash behind your back, and try to make you feel lower. But don’t feel bad about yourself. Don’t fall for the trap they’re trying to set for you. Instead of feeling bad for yourself, feel bad for them. They’re still stuck trying to be beautiful like everyone else. They haven’t seen yet that they can be beautiful by being the people they really are on the inside.