Romantic relationships can be quite challenging sometimes.
As you believe that your significant other is elevating your life and is doing everything to make you happy, they might be doing exactly the opposite. That’s why it’s crucial for you to watch out for certain alarming signs there might be something off in your relationship.
Undoubtedly, there is no such thing as a flawless couple or a perfect relationship. However, you can’t always be the one compromising and doing all the hard work in what’s supposed to be your partnership with your loved one.
There are several red flags you should never ignore, in order to save your relationship and yourself from toxicity. Here are 9 of them.
1. Everything your partner says seems questionable.
Perhaps you doubt most of the things your partner says. Even worse, you might have gone a bit out of your mind, spending your time looking for clues your significant other is hiding something. This might be a sign they aren’t treating you quite well. Every relationship must be built on trust and honesty. If you don’t have that, what’s the point of even being together?
2. You’re constantly putting yourself second.
Of course, when in a relationship, you should pay attention to your partner needs and prioritize them. However, this doesn’t mean to ignore yours or put them aside until everyone else is happy. The partnership between you and your other half needs to be mutually beneficial.
3. Your intuition is always trying to tell you something is off.
If you often have an odd gut feeling that something is just not right, this might be a serious indicator of an issue between you and your partner. This maybe your body telling you to stop ignoring reality, and asking you to finally face your problems. While you don’t want to admit or accept there is something off with your relationship, your heart is there to remind you to take care of yourself.
4. You don’t spend enough quality time together.
There is no doubt that some alone time is beneficial for both of you. However, intentionally trying to avoid your partner is far from okay. If you’re often withdrawing from one another, whether on purpose or not, you might be losing the connection you once had. Assuming that’s the case with you, your relationship needs good reevaluation and a lot of work from both of you.
5. When was the last time your sleep wasn’t disturbed?
Remember when you were still freshly in love, and you couldn’t sleep because you were thinking about how amazing this person is. Well, this is not the case here. If your sleep cycles are often interrupted, or you just can’t close your eyes until 3 a.m., this might be a sign of stress-related issues caused by your unhealthy relationship.
6. You don’t feel comfortable introducing your partner to others.
It’s a huge red flag if you feel weird introducing your significant other to your friends and family. Why would you be with someone who makes you feel ashamed and insecure? Your partner must be making you feel good about yourself and proud to be with them, not the opposite.
7. You can’t remember the last time you went out with a friend.
Honestly, when was it? Maybe you’ve noticed you’ve been ignoring your friends and family lately. If this is somehow related to your partner’s wishes, you may need to talk to them and ask them why they have been keeping you away from these people. Cutting off everyone else in your life the second you enter a romantic relationship might be extremely damaging for your mental health and your social life.
8. Your relationship feels more like a race.
Romantic relationships are at their best health when there is balance. If you or your partner are constantly keeping score on who is doing more for your so-called partnership, the balance is probably off the table. You need to be on the same team, not to compare and race each other. There shouldn’t be a winner and a loser, just two people being there for each other and respecting one another.
9. You feel like your partner is trying to manipulate you.
This might be one of the most obvious, and most scary red flags there is a problem in your relationship. While you think you’re madly in love with your partner, you might not realize that you’re being a victim of a gaslighter or a vicious manipulator. Be careful because this person may not be what you think they are. Look out for them saying things like: “If you really loved me, you would…”
Relationships are tough and often extremely challenging.
Sometimes things get heated up. However, this shouldn’t be a constant situation with you and your partner. So, don’t be blind for the negatives, and look out for warning signs you might be missing out on the red flags in your relationship.