5 Common Habits Of Bitter People And How Not To Be One
Do you know someone completely consumed by bitterness?
There are 5 common habits of bitter people.
1. They refuse to change
Bitter people do not see any need to change. They believe that the world is harsh and that they are innocent victims. In other words, they believe that there is no fault within them and that if someone or something should change, it is the world and people around them. Of course, this mindset will only make their life more difficult as it sets them up for failure.
2. They are cynical about the future
The disappointments and failures they have experienced have made them cynical and negative. As a result, they lack faith in the future and do not think that it holds anything positive. Similarly, they fail to see the bright side of the moments in which they live. Naturally, this means that they only further fuel their bitterness.
As previously mentioned, bitter people believe that they are innocent victims. It follows then, that when somebody does something wrong, they will constantly remind themselves of how deeply they have been hurt and how unfairly they have been treated. What is worse, they will never allow themselves to forgive. Thus, they hold grudges and poison themselves by letting anger reside within them for years.
4. They are jealous
Bitter people are obsessed with the idea that life is unfair. They convince themselves that the only reason they themselves are unsuccessful or alone is simply that life has been unkind to them. Therefore, when they see people who are successful or in love, they become envious and jealous.
5. They drag others down
Those who are consumed by bitterness cannot help but spread their negativity. This means that if you spend time around bitter people, you will find yourself gradually becoming as upset and cynical as they are.
Admittedly, life is often challenging and painful. Nevertheless, we can always choose how we react to the events we experience and the people we meet. Every single day, we get to choose between negativity and positivity. When we choose negativity, we harm ourselves. When we choose positivity, we make our lives ― and those of the people around us ― sweeter.
Bitterness is venom that consumes its host.
― Matshona Dhliwayo