4 ways to deal with and overcome self-hatred
We would be so much happier if we treated ourselves like we do our loved ones.
At one point or another, many of us will struggle as we stand in the way of our happiness and tear ourselves down. It is shocking how difficult it can be to show yourself the same love, kindness, and care that you can effortlessly give to your friends and family. Unfortunately, it is far easier to be critical of ourselves, our bodies, and our actions. What is more, it is this constant criticism which births and then fuels the hatred you feel for yourself.
There are 4 things you can do to promote feelings of self love instead of hate:
1. Make yourself your priority
Feelings of hatred can arise when you constantly put the happiness of others before your own. It is vital that you learn how to say ‘no’ and stop trying to please everybody in your life. Carve time out for yourself: time during which you can do things which benefit your mental, emotional, and physical health. In showing yourself that you too are worthy of time and attention, feelings of hatred can begin to dissipate.
2. Be curious and question yourself
It is important to look inward and be curious about the emotions you feel and the thoughts that you have. Allowing yourself to be open and honest can reveal a lot more than you might think. If you observe your thoughts and emotions closely, you will be able to learn multiple things about yourself: things you can begin to love.
3. Show compassion
Learn to show yourself (and others) compassion. This means being more empathetic, understanding, and kind. When that inner voice inside your head begins to criticize you, ask yourself: “Would I talk this way to my best friend?” Without a doubt, your answer will be no. It is helpful to treat yourself like you would a best friend; this is an easy way of showing yourself the compassion, kindness, and love which you so openly give to your loved ones.
4. Be grateful
When you are grateful for everything in your life, it is hard to be unhappy with the way you choose to live. Show gratitude for who you are and realize that the only reason you are where you are today is because of everything that you have accomplished.
Undoubtedly, the journey to self love and acceptance will be long and difficult. You might face failure along the way but when you reach your final destination, you will be happier than you can imagine.