Narcissists are determined to keep you away from the ugly truth about them.
They would try anything to confuse you, so they can manipulate you as long as they find it entertaining. Their hurtful mind games are capable of making you question your whole reality.
Playing with your feelings is something narcissists do constantly, so they would often say things they don’t mean to disorient you. While the things they say may sound straightforward, they usually have an entirely different meaning.
Here are 15 phrases narcissists say to confuse you and what they really mean:
1. “You are the problem, not me.”
“I know I am the problem, but blaming you is so much easier.”
2. “You are just being too sensitive.”
“Stop blaming me for how you feel, even though I am guilty.”
3. “Stop living in the past.”
“Stop reminding me of all the times I did you wrong.”
4. “You are out of your mind.”
“I’m anxious because I feel you know the truth about me, so I have to make you believe you are in the wrong, even though you are not.”
5. “That never happened.”
“I made a mistake, but I don’t want to face the consequences, so just pretend it never happened.”
6. “Leave me alone.”
“I’m just saying this to make you feel bad and flatter me until I decide to start talking to you again.”
7. “Can’t you see that I’m upset?”
“I need more attention. Now!”
8. “My ex was crazy, don’t listen to them.”
“My ex had the audacity to reveal my true nature, and I don’t want you to do the same.”
9. “I’m sorry.”
“Okay, I apologized. Can you forget about it and give me attention now?”
10. “Sometimes you have to forgive and forget.”
“Stop focusing on the issue and let me abuse you in peace.”
11. “I have never met anyone like you.”
“You’re all the same, but telling you you are special makes you easier to manipulate.”
12. “I am finally ready to settle down.”
“I’m only saying this to fool you into believing I am responsible and trustworthy.”
13. “You are nothing without me.”
“I am the most important person in your life. Never forget that!”
14. “If it weren’t for me, no one would like you.”
“You should be thankful that I took you under my wing.”
15. “I love you.”
“You are really close to figuring out my true intentions, so I have to distract you.”
If you have heard some of these accusations and false claims, then you are most definitely dealing with a narcissist. They say these things in an attempt to manipulate, gaslight, and distract you from the actual truth about them – that their narcissistic nature is severely damaging your mental health.
