When you’re someone’s option, they treat you as if you were easily replaceable. But when you’re someone’s only choice, they do whatever it takes to prove their love for you. Do you sense the difference?
No one deserves to be treated as a second best.
No one deserves a half-ass love. Being treated as if you were one of the many is something you should never settle for. It doesn’t matter if the person that treats you that way seems like everything you have ever wanted. If they don’t make you feel like their ONLY choice, you need to walk away.
Unfortunately, there are thousands, if not millions of people who put up with being mistreated by their partners, foolishly believing that things will change for the better. These hopeless romantics are looking forward to the moment when their love will be truly appreciated. But what if that moment never comes? What if all the energy you’re investing in your relationship is just a waste of time?
No matter how hard you’re trying to make your relationship work, no matter how many times you tell yourself it’s only a phase, your partner still treats you like an option. They are still making you doubt yourself and feel as if you were worthless. Their love is not even close to what you’ve seen in romantic movies or read in poems. They don’t encourage you to be your best self, they don’t support your dreams, and they are never there when you need them. And they never will be. So, stop fooling yourself and gather the courage to face reality.
If your partner is not as emotionally invested in your bond as you are, your relationship is already doomed.
For a healthy connection, both of you need to be fully committed to one another. Anything less than that is just not worth it.
Sadly, we often get our hearts broken by people we believe had our best interest at heart. When the one you loved turns out to be the biggest manipulator you’ve ever met, not only your heart but your whole world shatters before your eyes. When you realize they have been taking advantage of your kindness this whole time, your reality becomes the most unreal thing you know.
So, if you want to preserve yourself from such agonizing pain, don’t settle for being someone’s option.
You deserve to be loved with the same devotion as you love. Your pure heart deserves to be in the hands of someone who will protect it at all costs. Your genuine soul deserves to be cherished by the one who will love every single part of it, even the darkest ones.
Most of all, you deserve to be treated with respect. Being one of the many will never make you feel truly appreciated and respected. Instead, it will destroy your self-esteem and will make you believe you will never be good enough. But the right one, the one that will love you deeply, and will feel lucky to have you in their life, will never make you feel that horrible, soul-crushing way.
Don’t fall into the trap of someone who wouldn’t even care if you were gone. Choose trust, loyalty, and integrity.
And until you find that special someone who will treat you the way you truly deserve, choose yourself. Being alone is always better than being with someone who makes you feel alone. Remember that.