Woman Baffled After Neighbor’s Adult Daughter Criticizes Her For Tanning In A Bikini In Her Own Yard
Having a sunny yard to relax in might be one of the greatest benefits of owning a house.
You can grow your own veggies, get a suntan, have a barbeque and so much more.
But even though it is your property, is there a certain level of clothing that you should stick to?
A Reddit user named bikinithrowawayAITA was recently confronted by her elderly neighbors’ grown daughter over this issue, so she asked subReddit “Am I the A**hole” (AITA) whether she was in the wrong for wearing a bikini in her own backyard.
“AITA for not putting on clothes in my own backyard?”
She noted that she’s usually doing great with the neighbors.
“I [28F(emale)] live next door to an older couple named Joe and Jane. They are in their 70s but extremely active, and during the warmer months Joe spends almost all of his free time outside tending his yard.”
“I have a great relationship with Joe and Jane. Any time I’m out working in my yard Joe will come over and we’ll chat for half an hour or more.”
“I have the key to Joe & Jane’s house, they have a key to mine. Basically what I’m trying to say is they’re the perfect neighbors.”
“I have a small courtyard in the back. The two wings of my house kind of envelope the courtyard, so usually when I sit out you can’t see me from the neighboring houses.”
“I love love love to sit out there and tan while I’m working or attending school online. However, I occasionally need to move in order to stay with the sun, so for a brief period of time, you can kind of see me from Joe and Karen’s back yard.”
But her neighbor’s daughter was not so happy seeing her with barely any clothes on.
“Joe and Jane have adult children and one of them, Amanda [50sF] has been coming over a lot lately.”
“Yesterday as I was sitting out with a pair of shorts and a bikini top, I moved my chair slightly (so I was partially in view of them in the backyard) and soon Amanda came traipsing through my yard and approached me:”
“A: Hi, could you please not wear a bikini when my dad is working in the yard? It’s not appropriate.”
“Me: Oh, I’m sorry, does the bathing suit bother him? He’s never mentioned anything to me about it… ?”
“A: Well no, but it bothers me. My dad is older and he shouldn’t have breasts in his face when he’s trying to work outside. (We have 3/4 of an acre between our houses lol.)”
“Me: You can hardly see me 99% of the time, and I think your dad is more focused on his gardening when he’s out here than he is me.”
“A: You ‘young girls’ just think that everybody wants to see your bodies. Well I’ve got news for you, we DON’T. Go put some clothes on! (Lmao this is a direct quote.)”
“Me: Ma’am, I’m just trying to mind my business and get some work done. If your dad has a problem, he’s more than welcome to come talk to me about it, as he normally does. Until then, I’m just gonna ask you nicely to get off my property.”
She then went on to change into a sports bra but still felt uncomfortable by what had happened.
“Afterwards I changed into a sports bra/moved my chair out of the sun so I was no longer visible to her. (I know that being right and being a decent human being are two different things).”
“I guess I could just put a sports bra on whenever she’s over (even though I think she’d still have an issue with that & it would mess up my tan lines), but at the same time it’s my property and I shouldn’t have to change my behavior to suit the preferences of someone who doesn’t even live here.”
“TLDR: AITA for sunbathing in partial view of my neighbors, and not putting on a shirt when my neighbor’s daughter (who doesn’t live here) had an issue with my bathing suit?”
People then went on to give their own thoughts on the situation.
NTA – Not The A**hole
YTA – You’re The A**hole
NAH – No A**holes Here
ESH – Everyone Sucks Here
They comforted her by saying she was not in the wrong at all, and should not give in to the pressure.
“NTA. From the way the title read I was fully expecting this to be total nudity.”
“You were wearing a bikini and shorts. They’d see more flesh at the beach or at the local pool. Your neighbor’s adult children need to mind their own business.”—walnutwithteeth
“I was expecting topless at the least going into full on nude. Even if it was a bikini without shorts, the bikini is completely appropriate.”
“I have a neighbor who lays out in the front yard in her bikini. I can’t imagine telling her to cover up at any point in time.”—Traveling_Phan
“I think we’ve forgotten the concept of ‘look away’. So many people are so entitled that they feel the world should revolve around them and their feelings.”
“From ‘too tight tops’ to ‘too short shorts’ it runs the gambit. If people just minded their own business none of this would be an issue. Puritanical views don’t help things…” — WorldAsChaos
“NTA. I wouldn’t have changed at all if I were you. She needs to mind her own business, you weren’t bothering anyone and were barely even visible to them.”—lihzee
“A bikini isn’t appropriate in your own backyard?”
If this woman goes nuts over seeing someone in a bikini, can you imagine how she feels when going to the beach?
This is what some of the posters were wondering.
“Yeah like I could see the argument if it was total nudity especially since local laws may weigh in on things at that point.”
“But like has she ever gone to a pool? Or a beach? Or like anywhere near a beach?”
“People go into Walmart dressed like that during the summer. As long as the important bits are covered there’s really no argument.”—Pokabrows
“Bikinis and shorts are more than appropriate for sunbathing, on your own d*mn property.”
“It’s also weird as hell that she would come over and try to frame it as her dad being uncomfortable, but despite having a great relationship with her dad and mom, to the point where you guys have keys to each other’s homes, he’s not comfortable enough to raise the issue with you? I call bullsh*t.”
“Not only are you not in view of the neighbor for the entire time, but there’s pleeeeeeenty of distance between the two houses that I doubt anyone can really clearly see what you have on. But even if they could, you’re on your own property.”
“She doesn’t live with her dad, but even if she did she’s not the property owner (of either property), and if she has such an issue with it, she can stay inside, or you know, not look. NTA.”—smartiesmouth
Some even said the elderly father is likely not the one who has a problem…
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