Nothing is as important as the trust between people. In an ideal world, you should be able to trust the other person wholeheartedly and they should be able to trust you in return. However, trusting people can have damaging consequences because not everyone is what they appear to be.
And while some people will be able to hide it so well that you won’t know it until they betray you, there are others who exhibit certain traits who are sure to prove untrustworthy in the end.
Take a look at these 7 revealing traits of untrustworthy people:
1. They seem to constantly change friends
If your new partner or friend doesn’t have any friends. Or used to have a few but is now on bad terms with them, he or she likely did something to chase them away. When a person constantly swings from group to group, only to be kicked out within a year (or less), this could be a major sign that they are an untrustworthy person. However, when you meet someone who has a loving group of friends, who they have known for a long time, it can be much easier for you to trust them, as other people already do.
2. They have an inability to keep secrets
If a person is revealing information people have told them in strict confidence, you know they are not trustworthy. There’s an extremely high chance that they’re already doing the same with the secrets you may have told them. They love to know people’s secrets so that they can share interesting rumors and gossip in order to become more popular among others. They have no shame in disclosing confidential or sacred secrets with others. By revealing such information, they hope to connect with more people by showing them they’re extremely close to others.
3. They lie to themselves
One of the most unpleasant behaviors of people who cannot be trusted is that they perceive themselves in ways inconsistent with reality. When you come across a person who appears disconnected from the factual impact of their actions, it’s a clear sign they are attempting to manufacture a perception that conforms to their wishes rather than to reality. For instance, if someone consistently describes him or herself as a quiet person who is looking for harmony in their lives, while their behavior is arrogant, loud, and confrontational, you’ve got a red flag situation of untrustworthiness on your hands.
4. They don’t communicate
Often in life, we desperately try to get a person to open up, but no matter how hard we try, they still remain a closed book. If someone doesn’t communicate and avoids opening up, then they most likely can not be trusted.
5. They are filled with jealousy
Beware of people who never cheer when you succeed. If you notice someone constantly emitting jealousy every time you accomplish something, you should know that they can easily turn into an enemy. Jealous people are not difficult to spot as they always appear resentful towards those who have more than them.
6. They lack empathy
Being able to coldheartedly hurt people shows a rather shocking lack of empathy. Empathetic people would not be able to hurt others uncaringly because they are aware of the pain they can inflict if they do so. This pushes them to take a step back to think hard if they are ever presented with this kind of opportunity.
7. They turn their back on you when it counts
When it’s just the two of you, you’ll find that they are extremely friendly and apparently enjoy having you around. In contrast, however, when you two are out with a group or just among people they are trying to impress, they won’t pay much attention to you. They will act as if they barely know you. Such behavior clearly shows they’re trying to get something from you in some way or other. They are interested in you but only superficially. And as soon, as they get what they want, or if it becomes clear to them that they won’t succeed in getting it, they’ll ditch you in a heartbeat.
Can you recognize any of these traits in someone you know? If the answer is yes, then maybe it’s time for a talk.
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