To the woman who thought she’d be married by now
Are all of your friends already married and with children? How does that make you feel?
The truth is that you should never let someone else’s situation make you feel bad about yourself. So what if you are still single at this stage of your life? This does not mean that you are not worthy of being loved. It only means that now it is your time to glow on your own. Besides, being single is better than being in a one-sided relationship, isn’t it?
Instead of being your most ruthless critique blaming yourself for not having achieved what you thought you would by now, trust your process. And if you want to feel good in your own skin again,
Here are 4 things you need to STOP doing…
1. Stop thinking that being single means being alone.
You might be single, but this does not mean you are all alone. There are people around you that love you with all their hearts and would do anything to see you happy again. You have friends and family who care for you and go out of their ways to make you smile. Appreciate them.
2. Stop waiting for the ‘perfect’ partner.
Mr. or Ms. Right does not exist. Period. So, stop looking for the perfect match and start looking for the good in others. After all, we are all human, meaning that we are all flawed, we all make mistakes, and we all have bad habits we need to work on. But this doesn’t mean that we are not worthy of love.
3. Stop comparing yourself to others.
You are a unique human being, and you go through life at your own pace. Comparing yourself to others won’t help you be faster, better, or stronger than them. So, instead of beating yourself up for the things you haven’t achieved yet, focus on the ones you have. For instance, instead of feeling bad about yourself because all of your friends are married or with children, you should feel blessed that you have such amazing people in your life and you get to share their happiness.
4. Stop doubting your self-worth.
Just because you are single, it does not mean that you are unworthy of being someone’s other half. Who says that being happy is only possible when you are part of a couple? Maybe, now it is your time to shine on your own, without someone else’s light dimming yours. Have you thought about that?
… and 4 things to START doing right now.
5. Start enjoying your life.
Being single gives you the time you need to reconnect with yourself and figure out what truly matters. During this period, you can reflect on the things you have already experienced, which is crucial for your personal growth. Besides, when you are on your own, you have the absolute freedom to do the things you love. So, instead of craving a better life, start cherishing the one you have today.
6. Start appreciating the little things.
Love is literally everywhere around you. You just need to open your eyes and your heart to see it. It is in the people who care for you, in the eyes of your pet who cannot live without you, in the blooming flowers in your apartment you put so much effort into growing. It is in every single dream you fulfill, no matter how small. What is more, love can be found in the relationship you have with yourself. In fact, self-love is perhaps the most important kind of love you need right now.
7. Start believing in yourself.
Someone once said that good things come to those who wait. So, be a little more patient. And in the meantime, never stop believing in yourself. You are an amazing human being, and you are capable of wonders, as long as you have a little faith.
8. Start believing in love.
Anything is possible if you believe hard enough. So, start believing in love with all of your heart. Welcome it into your life with open arms. And please, never allow yourself to lose hope. Someday you will find someone who will complete you. This someone will not be flawless, but they will be real, authentic, and sincere. They will help you see colors you have never seen before. They will encourage you to become the best version of yourself. And they will show you that love is not about being perfect, but about accepting your imperfections and embracing your true self.