Likely the first thought that pops into your head when you hear the word introvert is of someone quiet, shy, reserved and detached from society.
The truth is, introverts are very irresistible, they just don’t put their charm on display.
Introverts are proof that you don’t have to be the life of the party to be attractive. Of course, this is not to say that introverts don’t enjoy a good night out or having friends. The truth is that these people don’t need to be surrounded by crowds and go out clubbing every weekend to feel confident, joyful, and lively.
In a world where people try to fit into social standards, introverts simply don’t follow the trends. They know who they are and stick to their values and principles.
There are many reasons why introverts are so irresistible, and in what follows, we’ll look at 5 of the major ones:
1. They’re mysterious
Because of introverts’ natural tendency to immerse themselves in books and observe others, they can develop a reflective and rich inner being.
If you’ve ever found yourself gazing at someone who appears lost in thought and asked yourself, “I wonder what they’re thinking?”, chances are that they’re very much like you.
Introverts tend to absorb things thoughtfully and deeply instead of flipping to the next subject to get a laugh or keep the energy “up”.
Introverts tend to listen more than talk, so getting to know them might feel like solving a mystery. This is what actually makes you love being around them – feeling curious about what’s going on in their mind.
While their mysteriousness is one of the reasons people find them fascinating, it’s also the reason why they’re often misunderstood by gregarious, outgoing people in society.
2. They are great listeners and excel in intimate connections
Introverts often listen more than they speak. They crave understanding more than being understood. They need to hear others’ opinions and stories to try and piece together who they are.
We all want to be heard. As attention spans shrink in our technologically driven world, introverts can make people feel important when they supply them with precious energy and focus on hearing what they have to say.
That being said, they don’t often have the energy to pursue meaningful interactions with a large number of people. Introverts lean towards deeper interactions with a few people, instead of shallower interactions with many people. If an introvert is truly interested in you, they will open their soul to you.
3. They are hyper-observant
People-watching can be an invigorating “hobby” for an introvert. They naturally enjoy observing their surroundings (which is also part of the reasons why they are natural born social psychologists) so they can become comfortable with and pick up on how people operate, studying all their subtleties.
The lessons that they draw from this help introverts in their actual relationships. The more you study human nature, the more insight you’ll have on people when you’re in their company.
4. They are curious, knowledgable, and smart
One important quality that comes effortlessly to introverts is a natural tendency to explore and be curious about the world, themselves, and people.
This quality makes the introvert an ideal person to have a conversation with because they’re intellectually stimulating. Through these interesting, meaningful conversations, the introvert can inspire you, offer you new perspectives on the world, and ignite in you a new thirst for knowledge and reading.
5. They are highly creative
There is a number of studies showing that the most outstandingly creative people in many fields are introverts. The reason for their great creativity is solitude.
Introverts love the freedom solitude gives them.
In this state, they reflect on their own thoughts and their surroundings. Thus they are able to think of new patterns and ways to create something new and extraordinary.
“Deep inside, she knew who she was, and that person was smart and kind and often even funny, but somehow her personality always got lost somewhere between her heart and her mouth, and she found herself saying the wrong thing or, more often, nothing at all.” ~ Julia Quinn